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breaking my girl friend's heart

35 replies

RayanPH · 23/05/2023 06:56

I am super ashamed of myself for what I did to my girlfriend. It's been almost one year and a half of relationship. But I was dishonest with her. I had a major crush on her sister, and I was assuming that I would deal with these emotions and get back to my girl. I failed at the end, and I was quite wrong. Not only I couldn't ever forget her sister, but also I lost my feelings toward my girlfriend. After 2 weeks of fighting and breaking up, which was like hell, I am super fucked up and I have no choice except searching, reading, talking to get a little better.
What should I do?

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Myalternate · 23/05/2023 08:09

You sound so incredibly immature.

AngelinaFibres · 23/05/2023 08:09

You sound very weird and immature. Stay away from all of them.

PrincessMyshkin · 23/05/2023 08:15

I'd actually be interested to know whether you have any insight at all. What do you think you could/ should have done differently here?

MagnoliaDreams · 23/05/2023 08:28

My advice is to leave both of the well alone and get therapy for yourself.
It was entirely selfish to tell her about your feelings to her sister. You're worried about breaking her heart by breaking up, I'm afraid it's too late and you've already broken it. I'm worried about her relationship with her sister and I hope you haven't put a wedge between them for your own sexual and selfish feelings.
I would strongly advise you to stay single and work on yourself.

UsethisUsername · 23/05/2023 08:38

Which one of the Wakefield twins are you dating? Yes I know that reference reveals my age!

However if this is true you should leave them alone and be less selfish in the future.

HowDoYouDoWhatYouDoToMeIWishIKnew · 23/05/2023 08:46

Ffs not only did you tell her you fancy her sister, but then dragged her to therapy do she could hear all the details just so you feel better.

The pair of them are well rid of you.

HerMammy · 23/05/2023 08:46

I told her because she has been such a great supportive partner and she loves her sister and me. I only told her because I thought maybe she could've helped me by understanding me and giving me good feeling in spite of guiltiness.
Jesus wept, what have I read? surely nobody is this self
obsessed and ignorant?

80s · 23/05/2023 09:01

What should I do?

  1. Send your ex and her sister an email each saying "I've realised I've been a total idiot and I'm sorry I hurt you and your sister so badly. I won't bother you any more, goodbye."
  2. Never contact or go near either of them again.
  3. Never again treat a partner as a non-human whose sole purpose is to serve your needs.
  4. When you make other mistakes in life, learn from them similarly.
goldenlocks · 27/05/2023 10:21

You are a lost cause. Crack on. Hopefully she will wise up.

SunflowerTed · 27/05/2023 12:04

RayanPH · 23/05/2023 07:54

my feelings toward her sister aren't based on animal instinct. Actually it's been 5 years I met her sister in the first semester of the university and I had a crush on her. But I berried my feelings in my heart and tried to forget her. until her sister ( my girl ) told me last year that she was in love with me. And I wasn't sure to accept or not. maybe I did because I haven't had any relationships in my life. At that point, I didn't know my feelings toward her sister would come back after a while. So we moved on to the point I felt that I am getting fucked up with those emotions. I realized I warned myself, but it was too late.

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You sound really immature and self obsessed! Hope your girlfriend moves on from your pathetic crush

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