Am I comfortable or am I bored in my relationship?

[Sjxo92]

Have been with my boyfriend now for two years. There's 20 years between us. I'm in my early 30s.. I'm aware the honeymoon period is over lol. He's a lovely bloke. Really affectionate, tells me he loves me all the time and shows it. I'm feeling guilty by even thinking that I could potentially be bored.. I love him so much but he never wants to do anything. I only get one night a month when my children stay out and he just wants to lay in bed watching films all day and night. Afew times I have got him to go out with me either for dinner or the cinema but it's rare that he wants too. I'm all for cozy days and nights in but when I only have the one night a month to get out the house I want to make the most of it lol. Neither of us drink so obviously not pub nights or anything but even a nice walk of we couldn't afford to do something would be better than staying in. I'm not sure if it's the age gap. He does stay round once or twice a week but we both get up early for work so it's a pretty standard routine when he's round at half 7.. asleep by 10 to be up for 5 lol. So I understand the weekday parts. I feel bad but needed to get it off my chest haha.

Also, our sex life. During the week it's pretty standard... As I'm well aware we can't make noise due to not having the house to ourselves. But I'm even getting bored of that that I've found myself just letting myself fall asleep instead. We do make up for it on the weekend when it's just us but I feel my drive is sooo much higher. He can keep up but I could do with it around 5 times a week which his is the once lol.

You're not compatible, and the sex issue is definitely not going to be getting any better. Move on.

It is not the age gap! We have over twenty years between us, and are older than you, we make love pretty much daily and go out together weekly (on a specific long-lunch date) and fortnightly do something further afield.
If you want the relationship I suggest you talk…that one night a month would’ve a good place to start.

This wouldn't suit me either. I do think 20years is a big age gap and I can honestly say as a menopausal woman in my earli 50s my energy is not what it was in my 30s but if I was onli able to go out once a month I would want to maje the most of it. As someone who has been in.a relationship with mismatched sex drives I know it is difficult. My ex was younger than.me though. I know that age can make a difference in sex drives but I later met simeine bit older than me who wanted sex far more. Perhaps u r just mismatched sexually?

Which authority do you defer to with regard to how you feel? I mean, what 'should' you feel, and according to who?