How old is too old with relationships?

[tiffanyblues]

So I've been sort of flirting with this guy for a while, and I find him extremely attractive. We've been small talking, but aren't even on a first name basis yet. We said hello and he asked me how my weekend was, he told me he was at his nephews 18th birthday that weekend, which made him feel really old - the topic of age came up and he joked he didn't want to guess how old I was, I told him to give it a go. He laughed and said how old do you think I am - I answered honestly and wasn't too far off. I then told him my age.
It turns out he's around 20 years older than me. This isn't a turn off for me, but if anything was to ever happen I know there'd be a lot of questions and remarks. Is there ever "too old" no matter what age you are?

I think it depends on the age of the younger person if they are young, in their 20's then it is a bit odd for the older person to be attracted to someone at that stage of their life but that's just for me other people won't care

You need to look at factors way beyond just age. What do you want from life, what does he want from his? If you want children and he's already had his and doesn't want anymore, you're not compatible. If you want to do loads of travel and he's done with that, you're not compatible. If he has issues with ED and an active sex life is important to you, you're not compatible.

I guess it depends what you are both after as you may be in different life stages. I once dated someone 17 years old than me but it was casual. Weirdly he was the most immature man I’ve ever dated ha!

I'm mid 40s and would date up to late 60s maybe 70 - depends on the man. Most men my age want to be dating women at least 10 years younger than them. I'm absolutely happy up to 60 but beyond that - it starts at to get close to my parents' age territory so very individual.

I am 47. For me it's 55 max. I just can't bring myself to fancy men in their 60s. I also don't intend to be a nurse with a purse.

For me it depends on how old they act and look. I am mid 50s but honestly some men only 5 years older seem too old. It's very individual, other men 10 years older seem attractive to me.
Personally I like to have the same reference points so I wouldn't want to be with someone who is in a different life stage.

I'm 43 and offset older. S

I had quite an old-fashioned upbringing I suppose. Anyways, there is over twenty years between us and we are incredibly happy together and have been together a long time. My worst relationships were with men close in age to myself.

Gosh, really?! I'm mid 40s and I'd go to early 50s and no more. You'd go up to 70 possibly??
I'm not knocking you for it, it's entirely personal choice, I'm just genuinely surprised that someone my age would consider that reasonable. My dad is only 72!
In a few years, we'd still not quite be 50, but your partner would be 75 or so. That really is quite old.

I hope that my post doesn't come across as rude, it is horses for courses, but I'm genuinely quite surprised!

Pink my friend is my age .. mid 60s, her 'boyfriend' (can't bring myself to call him her partner) is in his 80s and she is now his carer he still demands sex it is really a coercive relationship and I despair for her but she is so enmeshed she can't get out of the Sutton. I appreciate that's an extreme example and he is just not a very nice man - whatever age - but I do think a big age gap brings all sorts of problems after the 'silver fux' fantasy wears off.

'Sutton' should read 'situation'!

I've always had a rule to not date anyone older than 16yrs, basically if they could reasonably be my biological father it would be a no go.