should i just end it

[mitsandscarf]

been going out with a guy for 2 and a half years, he is 30 and im 41. For the past 5 months ive been feeling down and not making an effort with myself and just feeling drained with working and kids ( not his biologically but they get on great and are very fond of him)and wonder if im pre menopausal.

i keep thinking that that what happens if he is missing out on things with being alot younger and wasting his life with someone a fair bit older. i dont know if i should just end the relationship

any advice?

Why would you end it if You are not unhappy? He is aware of the age difference so it won't be a surprise to him if you suspect peri then go to your GP as it may be while you feel down

Why would you end it if You are not unhappy

But the OP has said she is feeling down?!

My advice is to talk to your DP and see how he feels and his hopes and dreams for the future before making any rash decisions and second-guessing his thoughts.

Why wouldn't he be capable of ending the relationship if he's not happy?

Thanks for replying everyone, my moods have just been horrendous, I think maybe I do need to go to the doctors. I think he is happy I just feel so low I’m like stuff everything I just want to be on my own. It’s like I’ve lost my spark. I feel like maybe I’m pushing people away because I feel so crap all the time. It’s been a while since I found any enjoyment in life and just feel on auto pilot. Thing is im already on medication for anxiety and have been for a long time, and it’s meant to be an anti depressive aswell so not sure the docs could do anything. I’ve been through a rough time for 5 years in terms of a divorce and a problematic ex and wonder if it’s all caught up with me now im out the other end?

If you’ve been on it for a long time it may be it needs tweaking. What you describe doesn’t read like you don’t love him just that you feel low. Depression?