Me and my husband aren’t in a happy marriage, mainly due to how he acts when he drinks. He is working a lot, and does late shifts so we don’t see each other that much. On his days off it results in arguing. We don’t do anything as a family, such as going out for the day, dinner etc. as it usually ends up in him ruining it because of his drinking.
I had kind of cut off our relationship, I’d do things with the kids and just plod along with him.
I have recently found out that he has started smoking weed. I found a spliff which he said someone gave him on a night out, he made out I was crazy as I said I’d found tobacco on the side too another time.
I then found a whole stash hidden behind the kitchen skirting board. He said he’d been doing it for two months. I don’t believe anything he has been saying. He goes out sometimes and doesn’t come back. His colleague sent him a message on instagram from a page about cocaine, he’s saying it’s not what I think it is and is refusing to show me. He doesn’t seem to care that I’m upset or what he has been doing. He doesn’t treat me like a wife, it’s like this is just somewhere to eat and sleep and me and the kids are an inconvenience.
He said he hasn’t cheated on me, but has had the chance to? WTF? All I get are accusations from him that I’ve cheated when I don’t even have friends.
I try talking to him and get nothing, apart from that I’m jealous that he has friends. I’m happy for him to go out and have friends - but not drugs! He’s always secretive on his phone, after what I have found I asked to see it but he has refused.
I have nowhere to go, I have looked into options but I just don’t have the finances. All I want is a happy home, I just don’t know what to do :(