Been together 20 months. Was BF’s birthday. Said he would let me know if he was doing anything after he had seen his kids, but he was tired and didn’t feel like partying. I don’t drive so I need him to pick me up - he lives 15 minutes away.
Didn’t get any messages, felt like an idiot. So I wrote “hey, what’s happening?” He read it at 21:30 but no answer. We spoke the next morning and he said he had fallen asleep.
Arranged to meet later but his car broke down. He was going out for a school reunion that evening.
so we agreed to meet the next evening. He said we would have a cosy evening together. He picked me up, nothing seemed wrong. Went back to his, everything was lovely.
Then a female neighbour 20 years younger than him came over. Started talking about the evening on his birthday. He said he hadn’t planned anything and people just turned up (everyone goes in and out of each other’s houses in his village) so he couldn’t get out to get me. I was willing to accept that but not that he didn’t message me as I might have been able to find another way there.
I had to stay the night as I had no transport. He turns me on a lot and I stupidly had sex and it was loving as always.
l was crying in the morning. We talked a bit. The neighbour had stayed for a bit with some other people for our cosy evening. He was hugging me and kissing me in front of everyone. Then she talked about her dog walk with him that afternoon. Stuff they had done in the evening together the week before. Seemed he had been spending time with the neighbour
a few days later, I get a message from a mutual friend asking me why I wasn’t there. That he had a huge bbq and they all had a great time.
he won’t tell me why he lied and why he didn’t want me there. I’m feeling pretty. All I got was “sorry, I didn’t mean to lie to you” by text message.
Haven’t heard anything else at all.