Did she lose interest?

[Raindrop7]

Is she not interested anymore?

So il try to make this short, at my current job that ive been at for 7 months ive been talking to this one girl, she started being around me alot, staring at me alot and she would walk by me alot so one day i asked how she was and she sat by me on her own and that was our first convo, so we been talking here and there at work, some conversations are long and some real quick and short. So the other day i decided to ask for her number and she asked “why” then i said “so we could hang out” and she gave it to me then a few days later she told me that she needed to talk to me, so i asked is it about the number? She said “yeah i was just too nervous and gave you my number out of anxiety, i dont know you that well” so i was like ok i understand you have anxiety and il respect that. So my question is did i just get rejected? Or should i keep trying to know her better as time goes on? Im lost. Also do you think she lost interest because i hardly initiate a convo due to my anxiety, i still say hi and stuff to her tho and she waves back.

Sound like she just wanted to be friends.

Anxiety can make people, people pleasers. I would take it as she didn’t want to give you her number and it was a mistake. I wouldn’t take it as rejection though, she wants to be friends I imagine but nothing more I would assume unless she made it very clear otherwise.

I imagine she wants to be friends but realised she's given you the wrong end of the stick with the number. I don't think she'd have backtracked if she was looking for anything more, anxiety or not.

Can see why you took it the way you did though, sounds like she was looking for attention in the beginning. If you want to stay friends without awkwardness you probably need a convo, then swap numbers with no expectations

It just dont make sense that she would try because one of my friends that works there with us thats been there before me says hes never seen her do that with other guys at work, only to me? Maybe i just fucked it up more cuz im socially awkward too

Yeah so the anxiety is true plus she is a really shy girl too and i just thought she wanted to be more than friends because at the start how she would give me all the signs, it hurts seeing other guys trying to hit on her too now when im still trying and its going nowhere i kinda feel like i was strung along

Do you think it was just for attention or maybe she had liked me before? Like i told the guy in here too that my friend who works with us said she had never gave interest like that to any other guy before until i showed up? Then again i get very nervous talking to her too i stumble over my words and she can see im nervous so maybe that turned her off too? Maybe our convos bored her? I

You sound so intense just from your few posts that I can see that you have scrutinised and analysed everything she does throughout the work day and placed way too much significance upon nondescript things, like someone looking at you. And walking past you.

Also, she didn't say that she has anxiety. She said she gave you her number out of anxiety.

I think i just started being like that cuz of what my friend said that she doesnt do that to other guys and plus i feel like im obsessed over this girl now and now im hurting bad over it 😞idk what to do i cant just forget about her i have to see her all day and see other guys flirting with her. I wish i could just bounce back and get a chance with her

And i really do like her personality and her looks too and the good convos we had were funny when we talked

You can like her personality and looks all you want, but if she doesn't want to go on a date with you it's tough shit. We can't just all go around forcing people to date us who aren't interested.

It's worrying that you say you are 'obsessed' with her after a few passing conversations in the office, and seemingly watching her every move. Leave the girl alone.

I reckon she probably likes you as a friend. Seems like she can’t say that right out. If you don’t want to hear it right out , I’d avoid texting her. Maybe even bin the number to avoid that happening.
If you want, you could always just keep chatting to her as you were doing all along and things could progress naturally.
either way I think it’s probably a bad idea to date at work, imagine how awkward it would be if something happened and then it ended badly?
Maybe she just had to walk by you? She also probably says hello to lots of people at work, and most likely has chats with them all too. It’s easy to romanticize the small things but judging on what you’ve said, I’d say she isn’t interested in a romance.