To be fed up being told I must put on weight. .

[Beebop05]

I've always been small and skinny even when I was pregnant, my bmi is in the healthy range. And I just want to clarify that I do not or ever had an eating disorder. Am now so fed up with people commenting on my body and how am too 'thin' and how I must have found it hard to attract a man. And that I have a child's body etc etc etc. Anyway..... Rant over.... Thought we were meant to be all inclusive/anti body shaming society. Does anyone else get annoying comments on their body?

One time when I was 16 and had a BMI of 19.5, a male friend expressed genuine concern that I was too thin and needed to look after myself better, or else I might struggle to conceive and carry a child in the future.

@CynthiaRothrock What a great reply! I wish I had thought about that. People, even people I didn't know, use to get in my face and almost shriek that I needed to gain at least, the very least 20 kilos. Then I gained 10 kilos and many of the same people said I was fat and must have gained at least 25 kilos and blahblahblah. Now I have gained the 20 kilos they originally talked about and realize that they also lied about their own weights because there is no way in hell they weighed what I weigh now. ( Yes, when they rudely demanded to know what I weighed and held long judgemental speeches about how I MUST have an eating disorder I would then ask what they weighed. I mean: if they had a right to know my weight I must have had a right to know theirs. No way in hell any of them weighed less than a hundred kilos)

I don't understand why people 'can't understand' why it's deemed more acceptable to comment on slim bodies, even though it isn't. I'd have thought it was blatantly obvious.
But in case it really does need spelling out...being slim is deemed more acceptable than being OW. So, much like its deemed acceptable to tell people they look too young, but not too old, calling someone too thin isn't seen as insulting in the way it would be to call them too fat. In fact it's not long ago when it would have been seen as a compliment of the highest order.

I was told by a friend of DH’s who is a doctor that I’d ‘never give birth naturally as my hips are too small’.

I’ve now had three babies, all vaginal deliveries, one over 9lbs 🙄

I used to, quite a lot when I was younger. Like you I never had an eating disorder, also I wasn't that flat chested, so I didn't get the other comments, but I did get comments saying I was really thin and I do remember an obnoxious room mate's friend asking if I was anorexic. I was 5'7" and about 8 1/2 stone or thereabouts and really healthy. Only happened in the UK. I moved abroad and nobody ever commented on my weight. Since having kids I'm about 9 stone plus a bit, so nobody really comments.

Oh they're just playing dumb.

Thanks for your replies, I just find it a bit much at times and by nature am a non-confrontational person so don't say anything back which I probably should. For info am 5'3 and 7stone'5 xxx

Or 7stone'8 on a Good day 🤣

Whilst it’s unfair and awful what you’re putting up with OP, it’s a complete myth that people don’t make comments to fat people as well.

Like other PP’s I have been both very slim and fat and the comments I got/get as a fat person are actually far worse. Plus ANY medical appointment usually results in being told to lose weight and that becoming a focus of any and all treatments (even though I have no overweight triggered health conditions AND I have PCOS, thus making it very hard to lose weight).

I used to get the same sorts of comments. Now I'm slightly overweight and I get them in the opposite direction. Women can't win!