Relationship after baby

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How was everyone's relationships after having a baby?

My relationship has been shit since I've had a baby and I don't feel nothing towards my partner anymore, I have no reason for it either which makes it worse. He's a good person and treats me good. I've just fallen out of love and can't stand him.

Does it get better or do I leave?

Im 3 years and another kid in and am waiting it out to see.. I'll let you know!

@TooBusyGazingAtStarss oh gosh, 3 years?!! I don't know if I can deal with it being that long. I can't even stand being in the same room as him 🙄 hopefully it gets better for us and it's just hormones. Good luck and good luck on new baby!

Just depends on if you can potentially see anything future-wise. I would say it's hormones to start with for sure.

I always try to think how my life would look without him in it. That helps me see how much I do actually want him around.. sometimes haha

You will be fine im sure, everything in you at the minute is purely for the baby, and that lasts a while!!

My Lo is 10 months & mine & hubbys relationship has definitely changed he’s a wonderful man but things definitely change after a baby I’m not sure he enjoys the baby always coming first but time will tell if things get better.

We were definitely super stressed the first few months, and took it out on each other to some degree. So yeah, it wasn't the greatest time in our relationship. But, in between the horrible fights, we got on well (as we always have), if that makes sense. Also surprising amounts of sex considering we had a newborn.

Things only recovered fully after like 2-3 years I'd say, when parenting got much easier, but it improved a lot already after the first few months.

How old is your baby?

This post was a few months back. Baby is 9 months old now, the relationship still isn't the same before children but it's so much better than it was. We get along again lol

That's right they get so jealous but baby's always gonna come first 🤦🏻‍♀️ my relationship has improved and got loads better so hopefully your relationship will be okay soon

I know this thread was a while back but I came on to ask the exact same question.

I feel like I hate my husband since having our baby (almost 6 months) I hate being with him, I hate him being with baby, I hate everything but again don’t particularly have reasons for feeling so strongly!

has this improved anymore since you posted? :( I can’t wait years. I can’t live this way but I also can’t bear the idea of having to share baby if we did split.

Interested in this too. My partner is a very good father to our 1 year old. But he’s snappy and bossy with me. Blames me if I make a tiny mistake with baby. For example I accidentally pinched her skin when putting a plastic pelican bib on (no harm done) and he made me feel stupid and terrible for it. He was an awful control freak when she was born, dented my confidence, affected my enjoyment of motherhood, and made me feel unimportant, like ONLY the baby mattered. He wasn’t particularly caring when I was pregnant or recovering from c-section. He’s always moaning at me for one thing or another. And although he says he loves me, I really don’t feel it. This morning I’ve snapped back and told him ‘I’m not having another baby with you, because you’re horrible’. I’m usually laid back and just want a happy life. But he’s turning me into a grump too. Problem is I know being single isn’t that easy a life either. And prior to this relationship I’ve spilt up with about 5 serious boyfriends, because I just wasn’t willing to take any shit or settle for less than happy. But now I’m 40 with a baby feel I should suck it up.

I’m sure nobody will want to read this or respond to what is unfixable. But that sure felt therapeutic. Xx