Miss ex so much. Posting here so I don't contact him

[Teaforthree3]

Ex (2 years together) broke up with me last week, saying he didn't feel an 'emotional connection.' I was heartbroken but had to accept it and walked away.

Then a few days later he texted saying he missed me a lot and the breakup was 'probably the biggest mistake of my life'. So I hoped he'd changed his mind and said I missed him too. But then he repeated that he didn't feel an emotional connection.
So why text me then? I feel worse and so heartbroken and depressed.

We had spent every weekend together and I thought things were good, great sex etc. Admittedly he had untreated depression and an alcohol problem.

How can I move on? I can't just switch off my love for him.

I know you are all correct and I'm taking your advice to try and get over this.

I just wish it had worked out differently.

His comment about 'no emotional connection' still stings me. Does that mean he never loved me (and I didn't realise)? Or just that he'd fallen out of love?

It is possible he's had his head turned, or he has gone off you or never felt a deep connection. Who knows? You will never know and the more you try to find out, the more it will drive you crazy. You need to let it go before you become obsessed. The minute you start thinking this way, wrench your thoughts elsewhere. Count to 100 backwards, do a crossword, reorganise a room. Anything to stop the thoughts as they are not helping you recover. Best wishes

I expect he read the phrase somewhere, has no real idea what it means, but used it as he thinks it sounds plausible

You have had such a lucky escape

Please don't settle again for a depressive alcoholic with rather stupid, and cruel, tendencies

Try not to read to much into this. It's a get out clause, a bit like ..it's not you, it's me..

It's just a line that gets used as to avoid a wider discussion.

@isthismylifenow I guess you're right. Still makes me feel bad, like he was just going through the motions with me but didn't actually want to be there anymore.

Going through the same thing OP so no advice but sympathy, hope you are ok.
After a year together, really close and loved up, my ex ended it with me and wanted to be friends. I can't understand how he can say I was the love of his life, wanted it to work to not feeling anything at all. I am so sad and struggling to focus on anything even though its been 6 weeks now.

@WhereTheSpiritMeetsTheBones I'm sorry you're going through the same. I'm not doing that well today, crying and missing him. I hope time and keeping busy will help.

I heard from a mutual friend that my ex has apparently given up booze and joined a gym. So it sounds like he's making changes for the better - changes he didn't want to make when we were together! Maybe it was me holding him back.