No desire

[MrsMorrisey]

This topic has been down to death but there is no solution to the issue.

My husband has put on a lot of weight and I do not currently find him attractive.
We haven't had sex since before Christmas because I'm just not feeling it.
He seeks comfort in food and me denying him affection makes him want to eat more.
I have been honest and that just hurt him more. I shouldn't have done that.
I don't know what to do.
I love him and want things to change but I feel stuck.

Suggest you both go in a diet and join a gym together. Get rid of all the junk food from the house.

I'd suggest he also join a slimming group and goes to the weekly meetings.

'I'm sorry I was so blunt earlier. But now you know. I'll support you in any way I can with losing the weight. How about we join slimming world together?' Or similar.

Yep tried that.
He's not interested 🤷‍♀️

Well if he's not interested that his own wife is no longer attracted to him then I'm sorry op but the relationship needs to be over.

Only exception might be if he needs to see his gp and be treated for depression. If he isn't willing to do that then...probably time to call it a day unfortunately.

Unless you're OK with living with him in a platonic friendship sort of way from now on.

The thing is, there is a solution. It's s a rather obvious one. Just a sad thing to have to do.

But I mean whats the alternative? You can't spend your life miserable because he seems to want to.

And you can't change you - to fix someone else.
There are no right words for someone that doesn't want to change.

All you can do is be responsible for your own happiness.