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What does it mean when someone uses your name a lot?

39 replies

lionjay · 18/05/2023 21:37

There's a guy I see every so often going to/from work he does shifts, so it varies. But we only see each other for a few minutes at a time and familiarised ourselves to be cordial and say hello/how are you.
At my work over Christmas, we had various other offices visiting so we were all given name tags with our name and role. Due to never wearing them, I'd forget to take mine at the end of the day. Fast forward a few months later in March, and I saw this guy often within those months, one day he said "You alright, /name/" and it threw me, I looked at him for a long second wondering if I had forgotten a whole conversation where we exchanged names, I said "pardon?" and he laughed, he said "your name tag, it's a good thing I don't wear them", the next time I saw him after that he said my name again, and gave me his name.
We still see each other, and he always says my name. I feel it's often unnatural "Good morning, name", "hello, name", "good afternoon, name" and when I respond it feels unnatural to me to use his name but I do so as a form of acknowledgement.
What impression do you get/what does it mean to you if a guy says your name often?

OP posts:
YouHeardTheRumoursFromInes · 20/05/2023 15:27

Oh a mum at dc's school does this to me. She asked my name when we first met and now whenever she sees me she uses it. I find it a bit jarring tbh. She definitely isn't flirting or even particularly keen to be my friend so presumably it's just something some people do.

ColdHandsHotHead · 20/05/2023 15:29

it's aggressive, to get your attention

Kenwoodmixitup · 20/05/2023 15:33

I get on really well. I use his full name regularly to maintain a sense of boundary - from my perspective. Context is everything. Don’t say his name in order to be more pally, although I hope not. 😳

Aprilx · 20/05/2023 15:40

ColdHandsHotHead · 20/05/2023 15:29

it's aggressive, to get your attention

How on earth is saying “Morning Lionjay” aggressive? Confused

It is perfectly normal to say “Morning April”, I am sure somebody says this to me every day and I also use people’s names when I greet them. And it not sinister and nor does it suggest romantic interest.

OP you are over thinking.

Alcemeg · 20/05/2023 18:44

Sales tactic

perfectcolourfound · 20/05/2023 20:03

Of itself I don't think it means anything. Some people just do it.

Namechangenumber2345 · 20/05/2023 20:15

Aprilx · 20/05/2023 15:40

How on earth is saying “Morning Lionjay” aggressive? Confused

It is perfectly normal to say “Morning April”, I am sure somebody says this to me every day and I also use people’s names when I greet them. And it not sinister and nor does it suggest romantic interest.

OP you are over thinking.

Morning namechange and never saying my name again is normal

Morning namechange how was your weekend namechange? Myself, I went to visit family and took the kids to the beach namechange, do you have much work planned this week namechange? Is the mark of someone who has been on an NLP course and needs to go back into their cave

JauntyJinty · 20/05/2023 20:18

User1432423532 · 18/05/2023 23:49

He probably took a business workshop, pick-up artist course or NLP class at some point which instructs people to use names more often to build up trust. Have also seen this tip used a lot in social media clips from communication "gurus".

I was going to say this. it always reminds me of a bad sales man trying to make me think they're really friendly when someone uses my name too much!

DemonicCaveMaggot · 20/05/2023 20:20

I agree with AnarchoTyranny, repeating someone's name is a trick for remembering their name, especially if he sees you occasionally.

JauntyJinty · 20/05/2023 20:22

Aprilx · 20/05/2023 15:40

How on earth is saying “Morning Lionjay” aggressive? Confused

It is perfectly normal to say “Morning April”, I am sure somebody says this to me every day and I also use people’s names when I greet them. And it not sinister and nor does it suggest romantic interest.

OP you are over thinking.

"Morning April" is perefctly normal

but

" Morning, April. How was your weekend April? Did you got to that place you were talking about April? I hope you had a nice time April. Do you think you'll go again April?" Not so much

rebbles1 · 20/05/2023 20:31

I find people that use your name loads creepy like it's some sort of control thing that they know your name. Also hate it

Aprilx · 20/05/2023 22:08

JauntyJinty · 20/05/2023 20:22

"Morning April" is perefctly normal

but

" Morning, April. How was your weekend April? Did you got to that place you were talking about April? I hope you had a nice time April. Do you think you'll go again April?" Not so much

But OP has not said that he does that. Confused.

She has only said that he uses a variation of Good morning April, Good afternoon April or Hello April. But quite obviously nobody says all three in the same encounter.

JauntyJinty · 21/05/2023 13:21

Aprilx · 20/05/2023 22:08

But OP has not said that he does that. Confused.

She has only said that he uses a variation of Good morning April, Good afternoon April or Hello April. But quite obviously nobody says all three in the same encounter.

Fair point, I got caught on the title saying using the name a lot!

@lionjay - do they just use your name when greeting you, or is it repeatedly through the conversation?

Pixilicious1 · 21/05/2023 13:26

I use people’s name if I know them. It doesn’t mean anything at all.

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