I have been with my husband for 8 years and married 2,
A few months ago he went out on a bender and partied for several days, one of which was my birthday and he missed the full day. I had begged him not to do this leading up to it as it had already happened a number of times from Christmas, and I wanted my first birthday as a mother to be special.
He rarely goes out, but when he does it is always the same story. This has been a repeat occurrence for the last 8 years and since having our only child last year, i had hoped things would change. Following the incident on my birthday, my mental health had spiraled - I had planned on ending the marriage but now feel I have left it "too late" as months have now passed.
He is a man child who I have to mother but has made recent efforts to improve, otherwise he is a good person who my family love.
I am now in the turmoil of do I give it another go or should i leave because this has been happening for years now? I feel anxiety around us even attending social events incase he goes on a bender.