Trying to add me on social media - not spoken in years

[Headlessbond]

We worked together but he didn’t admit his feelings nor did I but obviously fancied each other, we both left the job and we went our separate ways. He got married, divorced after 6 months and decided to tell everyone (but me, I heard through mutual friends) that I’m his “the one who got away”. I was engaged and happy with my now husband. This was 8 years ago.

He’s now tried to add me on my social media. We haven’t spoken in 8 years. Do I accept? It’s not a good idea is it? I think he’s married with a child. I’m happy and don’t feel anything for him.

Yes, you are being very naïve.

Oh FFS! Why are you giving this sooo much headspace? You might not want to admit it but there is a reason. His impudence with the second request —demand—, surely was reason enough to ignore and forget this entitled chancer.

Your intentions might be innocent but his clearly aren’t and given your responses so far, you aren’t equipped to deal with whatever his intentions are.

I never accept FB friend requests (stopped adding 'friends' years ago as I never post anything anyway) and I have never had anyone message me demanding to know why!

I don’t know why you’re contemplating this OP - and I think you’re looking too much into it… but then I am getting a feeling that you do in fact have feelings for him because you are persistent in your responses. Personally I would just ignore but then it’s coming across to me that you want to have a conversation with him!

Because we used to be good mates before any feelings developed.
I wouldn’t have mind having a nosy but didn’t want to converse.
Trust me there is no feelings on my side. I would choose my husband over him 10 times over.
Maybe I’m feeling abit of nostalgia? I was quite young and really enjoyed the job we both worked at.
if I really had feelings for him etc, wouldn’t have I just accepted him and messaged him without asking an internet forum for advice?
the replies have made me realise what my gut is telling me. I just wanted to make sure!

What’s everyone’s reason for saying no…?
Because, what's the point?
Why bother. He's not in your life,he's not your pal so there's no need.

No good can come of this. Block and delete.

Why ask here ?
because you have doubts
listen to them

Block him x

He's so obvious. Someone that just wants to say hi doesn't send messages from different accounts when rejected. What could he possibly have to say that was SO important?

I'm glad you're not engaging op.