Looking for advice! Might be long - sorry!
Found my boyfriend in the act of zooming in on a woman's photo. Was someone I didn't recognise wearing a fairly revealing outfit. I asked him what the photo was and he explained that he had screenshotted a photo and was zooming in to see her boobs. He saw it on Instagram reels and it just randomly popped up. No one he knows. I was a bit upset and pissed off that he was doing it right next to me. Asked him if that was all there was to it. Told me that was it.
Slept on it. Asked him again in the morning to show me the photo and it then transpires that it's a woman on Facebook who keeps popping up as a person he might know. And that when she pops up he goes and has a look through her photos. Again wasnt best pleased he'd gone out his way to lie but accepted and moved on.
This morning, for the first time ever I decided to look through his iPad. I have never done this before. See it as a breach of trust and privacy. But something didn't add up for me.
I found hidden away an entire folder of screenshots of all different women. All those he knows. My work colleagues, friends, family, people he works with. As bad as it can be really. They were all just screenshots taken from Facebook. Nothing that was sent to him directly. So I'm happy knowing that he's not been sent this stuff.
I'm pretty upset. We have a young child and I'm pregnant again. I'm also not particularly big boobed and self conscious having not lost the pregnancy weight from my first - let alone being pregnant again.
He's a perfect husband and a great father. This has come as a huge shock. He says it's a compulsion/addiction. He's ashamed. Promised he'll never do it again. What do I do?