Am I overthinking

[Jewels1973]

My partner and I have been together 7 years, both are 50 years old. Our physical relationship has been non existant for the last 4 years due to his ill health and him basically not being in the mood. I think the main reason is hes just not attracted to me and have tried several times to talk about it to which he says he loves me and there is no one else, that life has been stressful these last few years. Yesterday i saw he liked a girls photo on FB, she is 28 and wearing a bikini. I think this is totally disrespectful towards me and makes me feel like crap. I havent mentioned this to him as i know it'll end in a argument. Am i overthinking that its disrespectful towards me. He obviously likes her photo but cant muster the energy to give me the physical relationship i need. How do i bring up the subject of this photo and make him see my point, or do i even have a point.

If my DH did that I would be revolted and it would change the way I felt about him. Not only is it disrespectful to you, it's grubby in general. I can't stand older men leching over young women, it's really gross and I would lose my respect for him.

No, you do not have a point. The difference in physical exertion required for these two activities is enormous.

Well it's a bit creepy isn't it. I mean most men would probably like the picture if they're honest, but to actually click 'like' is a bit mucky and would put me off him. Is it a big deal? Possibly not, and I agree with Domino above, that you can't really compare, but given the fact that he isn't generally interested in a sexual relationship with you, I can see why this has hurt you

Its not just a sexual relationship thats not there, there is no kissing, no hugging, nothing. We dont even share a bed, altho thats my choice. I was fed up crying myself to sleep each night when he turned his back on me so i moved to the spare room. If feel like his mother/house keeper and have told him this several times but nothing seems to change.

Why are you staying in this relationship. It doesn't need any of your needs.

Sounds like bigger issues between you and that neither of you are happy. Him liking the picture might of made you feel bad but it's not the worst thing he's doing is it? You need to be upfront about what you want from him

Bloody hell OP.

Raise the bar.
You are being lined up to be his live in carer. He says he loves you. Oh big fucking deal. Then leches online because he has you, I guess, running around after him.

I think what you need is a big argument. A big fuck off argument.

Never be afraid of expressing yourself, your thoughts, your needs, your paranoia.

I can say anything to my H (and have in the past). Anything. I can be angry, paranoid, horny, disgusted, any human emotion. Never do I once fear his reaction. Sometimes I expect him to fix me (and I him). And he does. And I do.

You have been together 7 years, 4 without sex.

You owe him nothing

If he doesn't give you everything you need why bother?