Strangers living in same house

[mothertoboys]

So myself and dh have been together for 15 years we have children together and we are currently living together with hardly a relationship to mention. Partly my fault I haven't prioritised him and have prioritised kids first. My communication isn't great but I don't feel like he's interested in me outside the bedroom, he feels we aren't connecting on a sexual level and mentioned we aren't adding value to each others lives apart from a co-parenting one. I don't know what to do. I want to talk to him but his body language shows he's not interested, he will literally turn the other way when we get in bed or go on the dreaded phone. if I'm honest with myself he's never really been interested in what my days been like or how I'm feeling he's never even asked if I'm ok. I'm not totally innocent in all this but feel we're not giving each other the energy. Has anyone been in a similar position .. is their light at the end of the tunnel?

Would he/you consider marriage counselling? Try and understand what's going wrong, if it can be salvaged? After 15 years surely it's worth trying? A marriage is like a plant our counsellor said, you need to water it, feed it and nurture for it to grow and endure. We are all so busy it's easy to end up on different paths. Best of luck OP

I don't understand, you say he's not interested in you outside the bedroom, implying that he's just interested in you for sex.

But then you go on to say that you are not connecting on a sexual level and he turns away when you get into bed. So are you having sex and, if so, how does that get initiated?

When was the last time you went out for dinner together without the children?

What do you do in the evenings after they have gone to bed?

Maybe you guys are in a rut? 15 years is a long time.I'd suggest marriage counselling.