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Did I make a mistake blocking him?

36 replies

MJdey4you · 16/05/2023 00:44

Guys, I have a question. I am so confused now. I blocked this guy and now I miss him so much and I think I made a mistake.

we met online and have been talking for 4 months, he’s the absolute sweetest and is everything I want but we’ve never met cuz he’s in another city. I was supposed to travel a month ago and told him about it and he said he’ll come see me so we can see before I leave the country. We have expressed our feelings for each other after a month of talking and have been acting like a couple since then.

but over the last 3 weeks things have been tough for us because he told me he can’t come anymore and now I’m starting to doubt he ever really liked me because if he did, he would make the 45mins flight to my city…it costs about $100.

since he told me this, I have been suspecting it is because he likes someone else so he doesn’t care about me anymore….

we speak everyday but he recently ghosted me for a week which was very unusual and he texted me a few days ago acting like everything was okay but I was just so pissed off cuz it felt like he was being nonchalant and I was not being treated like a priority so I didn’t bother giving him any explanation because he already knows how I feel about him not replying to my texts..so I blocked him

but now I feel like I made the wrong decision because I miss him so much. My friends think he’s been toying with me since it’s been 4 months and he hasn’t asked me to be his girlfriend. I dont know what to do

is it the distance that is making him this way? Should I unblock him? He hasn’t reached out and it’s been 3 days

OP posts:
Lovemebetter · 17/05/2023 17:07

So if you unblocked him, what would happen? You still won’t meet him as he said he can’t make it.

HagsGlen · 17/05/2023 17:09

OP, this is mad. Don’t invest this much emotionally in a man you’ve never met!

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 17/05/2023 17:13

You've never met. It's not a relationship or even close to one. You have no idea who he really is.

yellowsmileyface · 17/05/2023 17:27

IceStationHorse · 16/05/2023 05:36

Call the Catfish team!

Literally had the same thought 😂

OP it's really not healthy to be this emotionally dependant on another human being, especially not someone you've never even met. You literally do not know this person.

Frith2013 · 17/05/2023 17:55

You've never met...

DeadSea95 · 17/05/2023 18:13

You've never met him. He's a stranger. You don't have any relationship.

Join some sort of hobby where you meet men in person.

alwaysmovingforwards · 17/05/2023 19:49

suburbophobe · 16/05/2023 01:19

we’ve never met

Sorry OP.

You have no idea who someone is without meeting in real life.

Totally agree.
I call bullshit on this thread, who in their right minds would believe 'they're acting as a couple' with someone they've never even met!?
Could be a scammer, catfish, nut job, hoax.. could be anyone!
Unless the OP is 13 years old and lives in lalaland.

tiaandduck · 18/05/2023 08:33

Four months, and you've already had to block him because you weren't happy. The distance and drama of this relationship just make things complicated and toxic. Keep him blocked. A happy, successful relationship just flows and you won't feel confusion.

musixa · 18/05/2023 08:37

Sounds like a scammer. Next thing he'll be asking you to pay for his flight, and his stepdaughter's niece's life-changing operation, and his taxes on some diamonds he wants to import ...

ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 18/05/2023 16:45

musixa · 18/05/2023 08:37

Sounds like a scammer. Next thing he'll be asking you to pay for his flight, and his stepdaughter's niece's life-changing operation, and his taxes on some diamonds he wants to import ...

I didn't get that vibe. I got the vibe he was probably creeped out by how overinvested OP was, all the while they expected him to be the one to fly and spend $100 in the process and likely more money once he got there. I'd have gone quiet myself.

RayofSunshine18 · 18/05/2023 16:49

Have you ever watched Catfish...?

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