My Husband and I are in the midst of a colossal fight that I am finding very tough to move on from.
He works really hard but sacrifices time with our 6 month old as a result. He’s also landscaping our garden but has been doing so for 2 years.
He decided to go on a stag weekend for a guy he’s never mentioned in the 7 years we’ve been together. He never even spent time with the group but instead, went around bars with one of his mates. I have absolutely zero issue with him going away but what I do have issue with is him dictating what I do when he’s leaving me with a very active dog and a very clingy baby.
I decided to go to my parents whilst he was away for a bit of company and help but his response was “well you’ll need to pop in and see my parents.” I said no for the following reasons:
- he told me to fuck off before I left for my parents (work call that went wrong as I was trying to mouth to him I was leaving and he got annoyed)
- two weeks ago, we were on holiday with them for 4 nights
- I’m about to start working for them and they’ll have our boy 2/3 days a week
- they’re coming over 2 days after he asked me to go
- my dad hasn’t seen him in a month
I have been met with such rage that I didn’t go over. They live 20 minutes away driving and I had plans over the weekend but he said that wasn’t good enough as they need to see “their grandson.”
I have no issue seeing them but he seems to create a narrative that I don’t want to see them. It’s an awful lot of pressure to meet his requests for his parents involvement.
I don’t see why I should drop my plans to appease his needs for our son to see his grandparents when they never message to ask if they can come over, or invite me over. I feel he’s really pushing me to do things that it comes across really controlling and he sees absolutely no fault with his actions. He’s also buggered off for the weekend, so why should I go see his parents when they’re seeing him tomorrow?
He wont talk to me and says I don’t respect him. We were even discussing ending our marriage it has escalated that badly.
Our son is exclusively breastfed so it is tricky for me not to be involved but I really don’t see why I should have gone over and it’s ridiculous it’s escalated this badly.
Was I in the wrong here?