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Is this an early warning sign?

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FattyAirways · 15/05/2023 21:05

I have recently been reunited with a man that I had casual liaisons with around 4 years back. I really liked him then but the time wasn't right for anything more than sex.

There are a few things that might be bothersome to me, but I was wondering if I'm just overthinking it all as I have been out of the dating game for some time now.

He's on a dating site as am I, which is how we got reunited. He talks to women through a live something or other (which I know nothing about), but apparently he watches live streams of people on there and talks to women about nothing sexual, but it's a bit of company for him especially when he can't sleep in the middle of the night. By the sounds of things, he expects to be able to carry on with this as they're just 'someone to chat to and it's completely non-sexual'. I feel that if we started dating that he should be coming off dating sites, but I definitely wouldn't mind him having female friends, so I feel conflicted.

I'd be interested to hear thoughts on this.

OP posts:
Whataretalkingabout · 18/05/2023 15:29

@FattyAirways He has told you who he is, believe him OP.

He gives me the ick!

Watchkeys · 18/05/2023 16:38

Stay away from people who make you feel conflicted.

Voila! Boundaries!

perfectcolourfound · 18/05/2023 17:52

He's done you a favour.

In the early stages of dating you're normally on your best behaviour, and eager to impress the other person, whereas he seems determined to prove he'd be a half-hearted bf.

Either he wants to stay in contact with other women through the night despite this bothering his new gf or he's addicted. Either way, not good sigsn for the future.

I couldn't respect someone who's on chat forums all day when they should be working anyway.

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