Only had 1 partner is this normal?

[Beebop01]

I've been married a long time to DH,and we have children. We are happy and intimacy is still there. But for some weird reason it's been starting to bother me that he is only person I have slept with. I feel like I've missed out, although not sure what I've missed out on!!!! And am not fully understanding why am feeling like this now. I definitely don't want to spilt up and i couldn't cope with opening the marriage. Anyone feel the same?

It's definitely a normal feeling, though as someone who has been with multiple people the experience over time isn't really all that different. You could try out some new things such as toys, shaving differently, dressing differently, or various fantasies to get a different experience.

Just because it isn't 'most people' does not mean it is not 'normal'.
I've only had one and I'm really happy it was/is that way. I don't ever wish it had been any different.

I've only slept with 1 other man other than DH. Been married 43 years and I honestly never think about it.

Both my siblings married their first boyfriend and 4 out of 5 of my nieces also married their first boyfriend so not unusual in my family

I’ve only slept with two men both I married and I’m still with second husband 40 years later 2 out of my 4 children are still married to their first loves 20 years later, we are all very happy, I don’t think it’s unusual, and I don’t ever think about being with anyone else,

Neither of us have had prior partners so we're in the same boat only having known sex with each other. Sometimes it seems strange but realistically we're both happy with each other and have no interest in changing that.

Perhaps because we're older, casual sex wasn't as much of a thing (especially in my family).

Likewise.

I've only slept with 5 women, 3 of those after my 24 marriage came to an end. My ex had only slept with me when we met at 17 & 18. I guess I always felt in the back of my mind she would wonder what it wad like to be with another man and maybe stray. She had a drunken 1 night stand with someone and a short affair with a friend which I didn't find out for years after. I think it's probably only natural to wonder what sex is like with other people. Question is is it worth pursuing it and wrecking a marriage....some do

Thanks everyone, think I was having weird blip moment of feeling 'abnormal' for having had only one partner. I'll definitely try basschecks suggestion

I was the same, I had been with my ex since we were teenagers, so when we split up 22 years later that's when it hit me. I never felt like I'd missed out though, I felt quite lucky in a way that I'd met someone and spent some of my childhood and all of my adult life with him until that point. I wouldn't change anything

I am 50's and have only had 2 relationships, my ex and my current partner.

I don't think about it nor do i regret it one bit, it was my choice.
I am not into one night stands or picking someone up in a pub/club so chose my way.

I agree with PP who said that over time the experience is similar - that is, unless you're into experimental stuff (I'm not). The difference for me was the quality of the relationship, the men as people and how they treated me, shared goals or lack thereof, not the differences in intimacy. There were some, but they did not determine the outcome of the relationship.

I suppose as well it's the feeling that am not desirable which hasn't bothered me either until lately (god knows what's going on with me 🤣) I think my DH still finds me attractive but can't sure as don't really get compliments etc etc. I've never really been someone that gets hit on etc etc either

I've slept with many men. Well into double figures. Closer to 50 than zero. Probably closer to 50 than 100 in reality.

You're not missing out on anything.

If the sex is good and you are both happy, I wouldn't waste any time thinking about this.

Getting hit on isn't a good thing. It's irritating and annoying.

I'd rather have had your experience than mine.

I'm in the married fairly young category, met at school, had a few dates then off to different uni's, only slept with each other although both had lots of dating experiences before meeting up again. Neither of us have any regrets as casual sex with randoms never interested us. We admit if we hadn't got together so young and we'd got into other serious relationships we would have but we're great in that respect and I cant imagine enjoying it more with anyone else 😏 The grass isn't always greener OP 😁

Trust me, you’re not missing out. You’re probably having better sex than most!

You've missed out on venereal diseases and being used and discarded. Promiscuity and casual sex isn't where it's at.

I’ve only slept with my DH and the sex, when we were having it, was very good.
Id hate to go with someone else and feel disappointed or used.