My daily musing as I struggle to come to terms with the end of my marriage.
H left just over 7 weeks ago, depression, MH problems, he's now holed up at his mum's. Doesn't love me, wants a divorce eventually. I've begged, I've tried to reason, I've suggested counselling, all ignored or refused by him, he's adamant it's over.
I've therefore put to him that he send me the court fee if he really wants a divorce - he hasn't sent it, told me the other week that he's 'not ready for divorce.'
He's had brief 'free' legal advice (I'm a family lawyer, we don't do free advice, it's a breach of indemnity insurance) but tells me he's not formally instructed anyone. He's wanting mediation for finances, but hasn't made any efforts to make the referral.
He's taken the majority of his belongings.
He's a high earner so could afford to move out of his mums whilst paying towards our home. He tells me he's not thought of moving out from his mums. He's looked at the divorce procedure but hasn't looked into the long term impact of divorce on us and our DD.
He's cut me off completely, when I do speak with him, he is erratic and manic, screaming verbal abuse at me, there is no rationality to him.
Why if he's adamant that it's over, is he not making any efforts to bring it to an end?