Am I In A Situationship?

[Dramallama92]

Name changed for this.

I've been dating a guy for about 9 weeks now but I'm slightly confused about what we actually are. I think its looking like I'm just a booty call but he keeps saying he wants something more.

Over the past 6 weeks we have generally only seen eachother at night (which is fine because we both work), we get on really well and can have a laugh, the connection feels genuine but he leaves as soon as we wake up and if we have matching day's off he would rather spend these in the pub than with me.

Last week I told him my days off matched his for this week and we agreed to do something regardless of the weather. He came over last night after work and it was quite clear he didn't have much interest in doing anything other than going to the pub, he left at 8.30 this morning in a rush to be out for the bar opening, which has made me question if this is actually even going anywhere or if its just casual. If I'm honest I just feel abit let down.

I'm starting to not feel that great about it all and like I'm being used or like I'm in some sort of mind game. There's also been some rumours going around the local pub which aren't really helping my confidence in him or this either.

Am I just a booty call or could this actually develop into something more?

Are you serious?

He sounds like an alcoholic and you ARE his booty call.

I wouldn’t want to be with anyone who was in the pub at breakfast time! Yes it sounds casual, but maybe that’s not a bad thing

Wait, he rushed out at 8.30am in the morning so that he could go to the bar?!?
I’m guessing some of these so-called rumours relate to his drinking?
I’d be seriously concerned that he is an alcoholic. Nine weeks in and you come second to the pub…

I always go by the mantra "If in doubt, leave it out!"

Go with your gut & bin this one off

Do you really want something more serious with someone who rushes to the pub as soon as it opens first thing in the morning?

Dating is a grandiose term for someone who just comes over and ejaculates in you

where did you guys go when you first met

Also why do you want it to ‘go anywhere’ with a man who doesn’t want to spend time with you and is at the pub at 8:30 in the morning???

what is wrong with you?

raise your bloody bar

Of course this is not going to develop into anything more.

9 weeks in and he has no interest in spending any time with you; it's only going to get worse from here.

Chuck this one back 👎

8:30 in the morning to go to the pub! 🤮🤮 That’s actually disgusting! Throw this one back!

Raise your standards. He sounds like he has a drinking problem, is happy to come over for sex then dashes off to the pub as though his arse is on fire. There isn't potential here. Wouldn't you like someone who is keen to spend time with you? Find that if so, even if it means casting your net more widely than the local.

Dating is for weeding out losers like this. No way should you have spent 9 weeks on him. You don't have to start a relationship with every man you meet. Yes you're being used, by an alcoholic. Don't let him waste any more of your time when there are genuinely decent guys out there. You've only wasted 9 weeks, end it and move on. Raise your bar a lot higher and look for the red flags. You deserve better than this.

Wow! It’s not even a situationship, you’re being used for a booty call! He only wants to see you in an evening and then makes a swift exit as soon as he can in the morning! He doesn’t want to spend time with you on your mutual days off to do anything nice with you. Does he actually take you out anywhere for a nice meal or a walk or visit nice places if interested? Aside from sounding completely boring to have a relationship with, what is he actually offering of any benefit to you other than sex?

Also, unless you’re an alcoholic, who on earth is going to be eager to jump out of bed and rush to the bar at 8.30 in the morning!

Get rid as soon as you can, not only is this guy using you, he is going to cause you serious problems in the long run.