Is OLD hiding something?

[AquaSky]

Been speaking to a guy old for a couple of weeks. Both mid 30s.

We had a plan to meet next weekend (although not confirmed) but I'm starting to loose interest, mainly as I feel like he may be hiding something?

He keeps saying he comes across better in person. I asked him how long he had been single and he said 'its been a while, I'd rather tell you in person if that's ok?' (This is after we've arranged a date for meeting)

I didn't think that was a particularly personal question and a usual thing i've discussed with other online dates.

Is this a red flag? I don't want to waste my time.

Hardly a red flag.

A red flag is behaviour that is so bad

What makes you think you're entitled to personal details of someone's life on demand. Maybe he was widowed. Maybe he's been single 10 years and is embarrassed. Maybe he build trust and rapport in person. Maybe he wants to suss you out before he opens up.

Red flag is your sense of entitlement honestly.

I think I worried it would be a red flag thinking perhaps he's never had a relationship and reluctant to tell me? That would worry me, a 34 year old bloke having never had a relationship.

Then just don’t see him if you’re already doubting him then don’t meet up with him seriously I never get these kind of threads if you are doubting someone before you even meet them why would you even consider it

I wouldn't tell anyone more than "a while" before I'd even met them - I think it's a weird thing to ask someone and often kills a conversation.

If it's something he wants to discuss in person it suggests to me he's married and still living with the ex. I've had this a few times "I'm in a complicated situation and not after anything serious" when I've asked further it turns out they still live in the family home "for the children".

Could just be he wants to save conversation for when you do actually meet.

OLD is particularly bad for meeting, texting for ages and then when you finally do meet, you've covered everything.