Never marry someone in the services

[Fireants]

Just please don’t. Your life will be miserable

Are you alright, love?

Sounds like you need to vent.

I married someone in the Forces and am anything but miserable.

But I’m really sorry you’ve had a bad experience. Do you want to tell us about it?

My ex was in the army and he was pure evil.

Was he ‘pure evil’ before he joined the army?

I suspect he might have been but hid it. He was only 18 when he joined.

Why what’s wrong? It does sound like a very hard life and can be very isolating. Do you hav many other people around you?

you can leave, you know!

If you need to vent, vent away.
I'm a forces wife and after the usual Sunday goodbyes this evening I'm feeling pretty miserable about it all too.

Why don’t you just write what the issue is instead of writing one sentence? 🙄

My girlfriend was married to an officer. Treated her like shit, would hit her on the upper arms and thighs to keep the bruises out of view. Mentally cruel and spoke to her like a dog. Shagged his way round Cyprus and Germany and gave her an STI. Finally she left him and came back to England. Got fuck all in the divorce as the cunt hid most of their money offshore. Remains a vile narcissistic bastard up until today. Obviously that's not everyone's experience but it was hers.

I deal with divorces daily and I would say divorces from those in the army or similar are very messy .

This is quite offensive, I was in the forces, should no one marry me?
My lovely DH was forced and so are most of my lovely friends!
The forces is full of very different people, jobs and ranks… from air force to army to engineers, nurses, soldiers , pilots…. Don’t tar us all with the same brush.

OP, do you feel able to come back and expand on your OP?

It's your post. Maybe you need to let it off your chest so to speak.

You will not be judged. Maybe you need time to let it sink in before expanding.
That's o.k. too.

Generalising in any way isn’t a good thing, and this isn’t an exception.

I'm in forces . I'm actually a rather brilliant person. Which is probably why I'm single .

My Husband(who lovely) was in the forces , my first born was born in a military hospital and my midwife and consultants were all army . Dickheads exist in all parts of life .

I was married 25 years btw . Perfectly successful.

I think there is a certain type forces attracts - I wasn't stereotypical and I had quite a hard time .

I'm a leftie . I think that's rare in forces . But I can also agree to disagree and get along with colleagues. I can also have a laugh and call them out if ridiculous behaviour or stereotypes. And survive to tell the tale !
This isn't really about the forces op . Is it . X

I thought you were a police officer.

So, it really wasn’t anything to do with the army then….

Well it could be if @Redlarge is implying it attracts a certain type.

Hope you're ok @Fireants

Who are you on about. Military? Emergency services? Service station staff?

If the military then its certainly not for everyone, plenty of people enjoy their life married to someone serving though, it's quite a broad brushstroke.

You can be a police officer in the forces, I'm sure

My partner was in the forces. Definitely prefer our life now he has left!