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Original poster

What happens now? DH left

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Feelsickk · 14/05/2023 15:09

My husband has packed up his stuff and left.
He did something really bad and I asked him to leave, he did, no argument.

I don't know where he has gone, he has no friends or family he could stay with.
The house is solely owned by him, we have been married 7 years.
I want a divorce and will be calling solicitors tomorrow.
I'm assuming he can ask me to leave/change locks when I am at work but I have no idea. I haven't paid towards mortgage.
My 18 dd also lives here.

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MintJulia · 14/05/2023 15:20

After seven years marriage, the house will be joint to some extent, assuming you live in the UK.

I think the best approach is to talk to your solicitor, decide what you think is reasonable, contact him and suggest a way forward. Take the initiative rather than leave it floating and not know whether you will be homeless at short notice. But see what the solicitor says.

Daisydu · 14/05/2023 15:22

As far as I’m aware if you’re married the house is a joint asset. Get some legal advice.

Temporaryname158 · 14/05/2023 15:28

The house is 50% yours as you are married. Don’t move out. Go and see a solicitor tomorrow for advice

Temporaryname158 · 14/05/2023 15:28

You are also entitled to 50% of his pensions and savings and vice versa

Original poster
Feelsickk · 14/05/2023 15:34

Yes in uk

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Seas164 · 14/05/2023 15:42

Don't move out. The house is a joint marital asset, you are married. Call a solicitor asap and clue yourself up on how to proceed before you do anything.

Gettingbysomehow · 14/05/2023 20:09

Temporaryname158 · 14/05/2023 15:28

The house is 50% yours as you are married. Don’t move out. Go and see a solicitor tomorrow for advice

For God's sake stop this false information this is not true and only raises expectations.
It depends entirely on the circumstances. My ex got 10k after a 20 year marriage because I owned the house before I met him. My ex never contributed towards either mortgage or bills even though the house was in joint names.
Take all your figures to a very good divorce sicitor and get a ball park figure.
Don't listen to anyone on here.
I got everything. It also very much depends on what judge you get.

LemonTT · 14/05/2023 20:17

Temporaryname158 · 14/05/2023 15:28

You are also entitled to 50% of his pensions and savings and vice versa

No she isn’t “entitled” to “50%” of everything. It’s not even a starting point.

They have a short marriage and it doesn’t sound like they have children. The divorce settlement could be to just return the parties to their pre marriage situation. It could be a share of the assets based on needs. Pre martial assets could be excluded from the calculation.

OP you need to see a solicitor. Lay out the situation as it is using relevant facts. The length of the relationship (not marriage), whether you have children and a summary of assets and income.

SweetSakura · 14/05/2023 20:17

Temporaryname158 · 14/05/2023 15:28

The house is 50% yours as you are married. Don’t move out. Go and see a solicitor tomorrow for advice

It's not that simple at all.

Op, you'll need to get urgent legal advice

determinedtomakethiswork · 14/05/2023 20:18

Do you have any children together?

Original poster
Feelsickk · 14/05/2023 21:13

No children together.
He actually came back a couple of hours ago as he said he had no where to go. Obviously I couldn't stop him.
He's keeping out of my way and sleeping in another room.
I'll still be going ahead with the divorce.

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