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Fed up.

9 replies

Doodles29 · 14/05/2023 11:34

I live with my boyfriend and our two dogs in a two bedroom flat.

I work full time and was looking forward to a lovely weekend as the weather is nice. Yesterday morning, my boyfriend woke up with a cold and his dog came into her season.

when we woke up, he gave loads of hints about me driving to go and get him a take away lunch, even though I am currently on a diet so this would be difficult.

He has just sat around all weekend playing the PlayStation and not doing much else. I’ve taken the dogs out on my own (which is restricted as his has to be on a lead).

I have a history of depression and the flat has felt very claustrophobic this weekend, with the dogs always under my feet.

im currently on a walk alone to go and buy some ingredients for dinner tonight.

I know it’s selfish of me, but I just feel that the whole weekend has been restricted and the weather is beautiful. I’ve snapped at him a few times of which I am not proud of.

he told me he will be ok for work tomorrow, so why can’t he come outside and walk the dogs with me? I just feel lonely and closed in right now.

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Original poster
Doodles29 · 14/05/2023 11:48

Bump

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Perspectivo · 14/05/2023 11:51

What would possess you to have two dogs in a flat?

you must be up and down for them to wee and walk and amuse themselves??

Original poster
Doodles29 · 14/05/2023 11:55

It’s not really a choice. It’s his flat we live in. He had it before we met. We are buying a house next year.

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QueenoftheNimbleFlyingCat · 14/05/2023 13:02

I mean this kindly OP, but how would you like to be dragged out when you're not feeling well? I think YABU to expect him to do something you want when he's Ill. Why don't you text one of your friends/family and take yourself out for the day?

Perspectivo · 14/05/2023 13:26

Doodles29 · 14/05/2023 11:55

It’s not really a choice. It’s his flat we live in. He had it before we met. We are buying a house next year.

So you moved in with your dogs?

He’s feeling rough and wanted a chill out weekend

and you’re pissed off

You so see you’re being thoroughly unreasonable don’t you?

Perspectivo · 14/05/2023 13:29

You have started multiple threads about this relationship. All regarding your dissatisfaction

perhaps buying somewhere together next year would not be wise

Lampan · 14/05/2023 13:35

Why don’t you arrange to meet a friend or go somewhere on your own? He can’t help being ill.

Kiitos · 14/05/2023 15:06

I agree with @Perspectivo
I have looked at your other threads and your boyfriend sounds selfish and lazy and cruel. Buying a house with him is going to lead to years and years of stress and upset. Don’t do it.
What what are his good points?

piedbeauty · 14/05/2023 15:12

In a healthy relationship each person does things for the other, so if your bf was ill you'd sympathise and help him out. I'm guessing your relationship isn't like this?

If you resent him or don't respect him, then don't buy a house with him. Think about moving out or splitting up.

Why didn't you have food in for this weekend? That would have meant one less chore for you.

And why didn't you go out with a friend so you didn't waste the weekend? Or go out for a day by yourself?

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