Hi. There are quite a few issues. For a long time he has not instigated sex. When we do do it, it’s me instigating and I choose timing carefully so as to avoid rejection. But for quite some time he’s reduced affection to almost none. In fact none if I think about it. And then now I think we’ve progressed into disdain, I feel I irritate him. All the time! He gets quite angry at life (another issue). He often sees the negatives in a lot of issues but this seems to have become more apparent in our life together. He’s quite a woe is me / victim type person and I find myself finding the solutions but still he won’t even try to think positively. It’s wearing and I don’t feel like the life partner you know, us two against the world. I want to overcome various problems but feel like he deliberately doesn’t want to be part of this team and is holding me back from being equal part in what would seemingly be a great partnership!! So, I have considered, is he depressed? Is he stressed? Is there something else worrying him? Is it just that he’s had enough of me and feels trapped and doesn’t know how to address that? But the day to day thing that has prompted me to post (I really hesitate to post here as I’m not a SM type person and don’t share easily - I would not discuss this stuff with family/friends), is that I just feel so sad and lonely right now. There are frictions, and in addition no one to hold my hand (literally) he never hugs me, the past few times we’ve been out, hasn’t really complimented me on my appearance. I feel he nit picks and what is really hurtful is he’s started to do little criticisms. Two have recently been around my memory (just unable to recall/ forgotten a trivial thing), and this really hurt as it felt like a real dig at my abilities and was just trivial things. I can certainly have a laugh at my shortcomings, but these were not said in jest - as I said, irritation, exasperation, annoyance on his part, like I’m some kind of liability to him. There are other things but would probably make this post mammoth…. For me to bring this up with him I would / am going to find really difficult. He takes any criticism of anything really badly (again, the victim attitude), and also has a little habit of tit for tat which would again for me take me one step nearer killing love for him, and he also uses passive aggressiveness / sarcasm as a kind of defence. Has anyone else experienced this? The drip drip of the constant just feeling of lack of appreciation and just feeling treasured and special to someone?