what would you think/do?
years ago I met a man who told me he had vasectomy but will reverse it for me to have a child. on the basis of that I continued the relationship. he also knew I received an inheritance (comfy sum). after few years I nudged for the baby but he was more focused on getting married. I was standing by my point lets explore pregnancy options first, we can get married later. it was always a no. I left it and came back to the topic again after another year (at that point 3 years) - he started going on about how we can not have a child yet because we need bigger house. He had a big house, I had an apartment.
4 years in I realised there is always a reason why it can not happen. obstacle after obstacle. after 5 years he told me that actually it is me that needs to see a doctor because I might be infertile as I haven't got children and he has. I explained that I had all the tests done and I am fertile. he insisted I have them done again. I did them and he did not even want to see the results.
he accused me that I did not want to build anything together with him only wanted a child. to me the greatest value is family and I communicated it across very first date. I think he was actually after my money and lied to me about the reversal. financially he was hoping for me to join with him and perhaps get a bigger house for the future benefit of his children. he has a strange habit of and unhealthy interest in my finances. it has been 8 years and now I feel he is the man that denied me motherhood. mislead me. I want to leave and need some verbal motivation. is my logic correct?