How to leave

[EndOfTheLine2023]

I am so unhappy with my partner, we have 2 young children and I cannot be with him anymore. We do not get on and the last straw was him getting smashed today and being a dick after I met up with him and the children (didn't realise he would be really drunk), he denied he was drunk but when we got home he threw up for 15 minutes and could not put our 5-year-old to bed. We are both on the mortgage and yes he earns way more than me because I stayed at home with the children and work part-time. The deposit in the house is all mine but he pays mortgage, i really want to keep this house but I don't want him. I don't have anyone to talk to properly about this so I have to do this on my own.

Gosh I’ve no advice but I hope you get sorted. I am in the same position with DH who incidentally has just called me a dickhead and a bitch.

Are you married?
It’s not likely you will get to stay in the home unless he is rich and very generous whilst being dumped and thrown out… (hence “the trap”)

Can you be financially independent too?

Just to here to handhold OP, sounds awful. Wishing you the best of luck

See a solicitor?

Also. A conversation with him. He may feel the same and you can then move forward and seperate

Do you own as tenants in common with unequal
shares or joint tenants (50:50)
can you go back to work full
time
would you be able to get a mortgsge in your own name ( and buy him out ?)
as you’re not married you only be entitled to your share of equity ( depending how house is owned) and child maintenance

I have assumed not married as you refer to partner.

Your first bet would be to get some legal and relationship advice. My ex was a drinker and we were together almost 30 years. I didn't realise the damage it was doing to me or the kids even though he wasn't violent.