For those who have family members they don't speak to

[Silverbook]

2 members of my family don't talk to me. No dramatic fall outs. We live very close, in the same village. My DM has poor MH and we drifted over a few years but culminating 2 years ago when she was in a manic state and afterwards refused to apologise for being very hurtful. For years I've made allowances but I ended up being emotionally drained.

Sister then followed and just stopped calling/texting/replying. This actually hurt more as we were close and saw each other multiple times a week.

So my questions are-

Has anybody had a period of not talking then salvaged a family relationship?
How has it affected you?

I've cut contact with my father. No regrets but it took a number of years to come to terms with it.

I've not spoken to my sister for 3 years. She has thankfully finally given up on trying to get me to talk to her. Its almost been a year since she last attempted contact, fingers crossed 🤞 I never hear from her again

DP and I were NC with his mother. We did reconcile and it failed again..I has told DP she is always welcome if he wishes to reinstate contact and I will absolutely make her welcome in our house however I will have absolutely no contact out with her visits to our home. He has no interest in resuming contact.

I didn't speak to my Dad for a year as he really upset me. However, my DM and DSis persuaded us to reconcile. It was never really the same after but we made an effort for the sake of playing happy families. That was until I had an awful tragedy, and my DF, DM and DSis showed their true colours and acted in a selfish and unbelievably cruel way. I am now NC with them.

There is a saying: 'If someone shows you who they truly are, believe them'.

I wish I had taken the advice the first time around. I don't plan on making the mistake to reconcile again - unless they apologise and acknowledge what they have done, make a genuine effort to change and go to therapy. But I know they will never, so no chance of reconciliation (although I would deep down really like that).