Not sure I can forgive him

[chocolateaddict231]

Hi everyone, hope your weekend is going well.
I have been trying to make a go of getting back together with a man who I have trust issues with. He didn't cheat but he was always one leg out the door and didn't show a lot of interest or respect in me. I eventually couldn't take it anymore and moved on.....for him to now come back making promises after attending counselling and giving himself a kick up the bum.
While I can see we're good together, I just have to think 'well if I wasn't good enough for you before, should I trust you'.....he was never there when I needed him before so I don't know if being alone is better than carrying this anxiety!

Being alone is 100x better than carrying this anxiety. You're not "good together " He makes you miserable!. I'd block this guy altogether so you can concentrate on moving on. Raise your bar love.

Nope, nope, nope and also nope.

May I add

Nope.

Don't put yourself through it again.

This.

He is a user who suits himself.

You are completely wasting your time and taking a step backwards rather than moving forward.

He showed you who he was, believe him.

He's trying to bullshit you because it suits him.

He shouldn't need counselling to be a decent human.

Block him.

I expect he's run out of women to sleep with, so you're convenient.
Sorry, OP.
You need to bin this one again.

Every romantic relationship is conditional. It involves weighing up the good vs the bad. If the relationship isn’t meeting your needs aka the bad is outweighing the good, then it’s time to part ways.

This!

You already know who this man is. You really need to put yourself through this shit a second time to prove it?

If he didn't cheat what were the trust issues???if you don't mind me asking

No. I would rather be alone than in this situation. I also never think it’s a good idea to go back. Hold your head high & know your worth and you’re worth more than this.

Another Nope from me.

Sounds like an ex who went for three counselling sessions so he could claim introspection and growth.

He loved the counselling as he could talk about himself, and he loved having another tool to hook women in with

He was emotionally unavailable when I needed him - he would leave whenever I opened up or when through anything difficult. He also told a lot of white lies and slid into Instagram DM's, and I'm pretty sure he was on a dating app when we were together (but he still denies the timing of this - claims we were apart)

If you're not married and don't have children then you should 100% finish it with him.