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[limeblossom]

My partner and I have a 15 month baby. My partner goes out most weekends and each time it ends in a bender with him not back until early hours of the morning. He also binge drinks and takes drugs. Whenever I express concern and frustration about this he says I am "controlling". He has said he's unwilling to address his drinking as "he deserves a social life". I said to him I don't get to socialise much and he said that's my fault as I have no friends.

I believe once you have a family it's natural to see your friends less and any socialising should be done in a way that doesn't impact your family. I wish he felt the same. I'm so unhappy and feel so unappreciated.

Well he doesn't want to be a responsible adult does he. A decent Father doesn't stay out to all hours drinking and taking drugs and then trying to make out you're controlling because you won't go along with what he wants.
Sadly when he says controlling he means you're telling him what to do and he doesn't like that, even though what you want is perfectly reasonable. You know the answer Op, tell him he behaves like the adult he is or you'll be taking your DC somewhere else

Thank you, it is good to hear I am not being unreasonable

Do you really want to tie your precious life to a selfish man with a drug and drink problem?

There is no reasoning with anyone who has a different agenda than yours. You want a nice family life, he wants to get shit faced and have meals cooked. Your agendas aren’t aligned