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[MamaBear9420]

So my partner always tells me he finds me really attractive and I appreciate that and we’ve been through some bad patches but last night he said, I really find you attractive, this is why I can’t leave you if I was to get horny I would always think of you. As for your personality I would’ve left a long time ago.

He reassure he loves me and cares for me and also says he is with me because I’m reasonable and etc but that comment threw me off..

He seems to be very clear about why he’s still with you.

Why are you still with him?

He sounds shallow as a puddle

He sounds rancid.

My husband wouldn't even THINK what came out of your "d"p's mouth, let alone say it to me! Imagine thinking that little of someone that you'd tell them they have a shit personality and don't even expect them to bat an eyelid because you made a backhanded "compliment" about their looks at the same time.

No. He is awful.

What a dick he is. He's basically telling you he fancies you, but you're a shit person.
Lovely

That is a horrible thing to say, looks fade or accidents can happen. Relationships cannot be built on looks alone, personality is the main thing, he doesn't love you for being you.

Not to be alarmist but I remember reading an article about a woman whose partner said similar, he disfigured her so nobody else would want her as all she had was her looks.

But you’ve learned from your past that what was said didn’t sound right at all. It means you’re developing emotionally and beginning to understand what’s healthy and what isn’t. You’re becoming healthy.

Ugh! I had one like that. How disrespectful. I suggest separating from him.

He's telling you that you have no personality.

Worse- he's saying her personality would've caused him to leave if he didn't think she was hot.

So mean.

What an awful nasty thing to say.

Not surprised that you have had a baby.

Nasty abusive men love to ramp it up when they feel their victim is stuck.

Help yourself OP.

Do NOT have another child with him.

Go back to work full-time.

Keep your own money.

This is not a good safe relationship and he is not a good man.

Do not trust him.

Oh no op. That's awful. That isn't in any way near acceptable. I would be absolutely getting my ducks in a row, ten month old baby or not.

After reading your other post this evening, this is the least of your worries. You need to look at the bigger picture. Addressing one gross aspect of an unhappy situation is not chipping away and sorting things out, it's displacing the big problems.

There’s no need to raise it with him if you do want to leave. All you need to say is that the relationship isn’t working for you.

It sounds like you are realising that this is toxic. Start getting your ducks in a row.

Sounds like he is into for your looks only. What happens if your looks go? Betting he goes, too. Personality is much more important than looks.