Partner with a drinking problem ..

[Laurajade97]

Hi girls not sure the point of this post really just wanting to rant/maybe some advise .. basically me and my partner haven’t been getting on recently I’m worried he has some sort of drinking problem as this is the main issue of it. He’s always had a few cans of beer after work but now it’s got to the point where he’s completely drunk most nights and me not being a drinker it’s annoying as hell. another thing is it gets to Friday and he gets even more drunk than normal and then can’t get up next day to help with the kids or do anything as a family. It’s always me taking the girls out for days out etc can’t even remember the last time I had a lay in or even any sort of help in the morning what’s the point of him being here if I’m doing everything anyway?!!! He just doesn’t see the problem at all🙄 30 year old man acting like a teenager lol ..

Doesn’t sound good.
Look at the Drinkaware test , answer as if you’re DP. You could try asking him to do it but don’t be surprised if he denies there’s any problem, refuses to look at it etc…. https://www.drinkaware.co.uk/tools/self-assessment

He has a bad drinking problem. Save yourself £££££ and heartache and sack him.

It’s not a laughing matter
Save yourself and your children from a lifetime of heartache and start planning a life free from him.

This link is for people who have a person who is in their life whose drinking is causing problems and worry. It's help for you. You can't change what he does. Only you

al-anonuk.org.uk/

@Laurajade97 sounds like neither of you are really taking it very seriously. Don’t let your kids grow up around a drunken father. Like you say, what’s the point of him being there when you’re doing it all anyway?

Save your self and your kids years of misery and trauma and make him an ex. You can't fix him , you can't help him and you can't save him.

thank you.
of course it’s not a laughing matter I just struggle with speaking about my issues sometimes x

He's drunk most nights and he doesn't make any effort to have family days at the weekends with your children because he's hungover.

He's a shit dad and a shit partner.

Don't make your girls grow up witnessing this awful relationship dynamic, which they'll then be increasingly likely to replicate as adults themselves.

Instead show them that it's far better to be a single, independent woman than one in a relationship with a man who is pissed all the time and can't be arsed to parent.

drunk dads are often frightening to small children. Don’t put them through this - don’t let them think it’s normal for a man to smell of stale alcohol, have beery breath and slur his words and be unable to get up in the morning. That is what they may well end up with if this is what is presented as normal in their little lives.

thanks all. I’ve only noticed it getting worse the past few weeks hence why I’ve posted for some advise and get the full strength to leave. Some days he’s back to his normal self but then he’s back doing the same old rubbish again so I’ve quickly realised that I’m just going round in circles ..

im not the best with words sometimes as I’m not used to talking about my issues so if it comes across that “I’m not taking it seriously” that’s not the case at all I’m obviously going to do what’s best for my children and I’ve already said to him I don’t want them growing up witnessing their dad drunk and in bed and that he’s just going to loose his family over drink

Boot him out and tell him to come back when he’s given up drink. He won’t be back.