Dp lost his business after Covid and it was a really stressful time. He tried for ages to get it going again but it's been slow and he needed to take an office/corporate job. He kept saying to me that when he does not work for himself, I won't like it very much. I kept asking him what he meant - he said he couldn't explain it but other people had said this to him. We are both in our 50s and have been together 5 years.
Well roll forward 6 months and I can see what he means. It's hard to describe but it's like he's giving his life up for this job. He allows himself to be on calls from 7am in the morning till 9pm at night. He has absolutely no boundaries with work whatsoever and when I gently mention this, he gets v defensive. It's almost like he's allowing himself to be bullied by them. He rants about work all the time. He swears he's told me stuff about arrangements but I know he hasn't and then he gets annoyed. he also arranges stuff relating to both of us without telling me but insists he has. He's obsessed with podcasts relating to his work, so much so that I caught him trying to sneak his headphone into one ear so he could listen to a podcast rather than talk to me in the car. It's almost as though he has tunnel vision for work and absolutely nothing else. In the last 4 weeks, I can't actually recall when we had a normal non work conversation. Even this morning, I went downstairs to go to work, and he accidentally turned his podcast on before I had left the house, he literally couldn't wait for me to go!
I have tried to speak to him but he can't see what I'm explaining. Has anyone ever seen this before?