My partner wants to move but I don’t

[Flowersandfairies]

Hi everyone, just after a bit of friendly advice please. I bought my house 6 years ago when I was single. I met my partner a few years later and a couple of years ago he moved in with me together with his 2 children. We have them a couple of nights in the week and every other weekend. We are expecting a baby very soon. The house is three bed, the girls have shared the larger spare room since they moved in and we have changed the smallest room into a nursery. My partner has mentioned moving a few times but recently he has started talking about moving towns (about 30 minutes away). I’ve always lived in this area and he lived in the other town before he moved in with me. I’m not keen on moving as all our family are here and will be helping out with childcare so logistically it would be a pain. House prices are more reasonable where we currently are so we will get more for our money and the local schools are really good here. I don’t really know what to do….

Could you move halfway so you're both doing about 15 mins instead of one of you being 30 mins away from school / childcare?

Are his older kids likely to be at the same school as your baby at some stage or is the age gap too big?

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Absolutely not.
He is very much about what works for him.
How convenient it was for him to find a woman with a house to sort his housing for his children.
Stay close to your family and friends.
See how having a new baby works with his children.
Will you end up doing it all and being run ragged like so many women in your situation.
Things often change drastically when your own baby arrives.
Change nothing until you have experience juggling it all.
Does he do the majority of caring of his children?
If not it is highly likely you are in for one hell of a shock.
Mind and protect yourself.