Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

Husband has left me, what do I do?

32 replies

EllaEnchanted1 · 09/05/2023 19:42

So I’ve been with my husband for 2 years and have a 6 months old baby with him, as well as an older daughter from a prev relationship.
We have had our issues in regards to his laziness and constant moaning about anything and everything, his standards are high despite him doing nothing within the family home or for the kids, I do everything.
despite this, he is a good man at heart and sometimes is oblivious to his ways!
anyway, yesterday we had a argument (he spoke to me rudely infront of my family at a party the night before) and this resulted in me saying ‘if you don’t like it then f**k off’, and he did…. Bags packed and off he went.
I said to him if he leaves then that’s completely done and this was his chance to sort things out by having a conversation with me and he refused and continued to leave with the dog and his bag!
a couple of messages were exchanged after he left but I now haven’t heard from him for over 24hours, I do not want to chase him and contact him but does this mean he doesn’t care?
I feel I’m being strong by not contacting him, as I keep saying to myself ‘don’t chase something that isn’t chasing you’ and ‘if he wanted to sort it out, he would try’.
Please give me some advice.

OP posts:
witnessprotection73 · 24/07/2023 11:58

Hibiscrubbed · 24/07/2023 11:38

You must do if you’re encouraging a woman to chase a man of this exceptionally low calibre.

Show quote history

This isn’t really about me BUT to be clear I literally said don’t chase him.

However, relationships need work and all I was saying is what if they could communicate and sort out some of the issues then perhaps it would be worth a try. I’m not condoning his poor behaviour & I’m not saying she should continue to put up with this.

Being a single parent is no picnic and it’s lonely AF. So I just think if you can’t try you should. I don’t agree with the way some MNs suggesting splitting up as the first option.

MintJulia · 24/07/2023 12:01

So he does nothing around the house, expects you to do everything to a high standard including look after a 6 month old baby, and then walks out on you and his child over a petty argument.

Let him go love. He's not worth the bother.

Hibiscrubbed · 24/07/2023 13:20

witnessprotection73 · 24/07/2023 11:58

This isn’t really about me BUT to be clear I literally said don’t chase him.

However, relationships need work and all I was saying is what if they could communicate and sort out some of the issues then perhaps it would be worth a try. I’m not condoning his poor behaviour & I’m not saying she should continue to put up with this.

Being a single parent is no picnic and it’s lonely AF. So I just think if you can’t try you should. I don’t agree with the way some MNs suggesting splitting up as the first option.

Show quote history

Well, some of us recognise that low quality men who do nothing and flee at the first opportunity, are not worth trying to please and keep around.

CovertImage · 24/07/2023 13:48

witnessprotection73 · 24/07/2023 00:08

Please don’t throw away your relationship because some man hating women tell you to do so.

I agree don’t chase him BUT if you want to try to sort this it doesnt sound beyond hope.

Perhaps some time apart will do you good & you can talk about things he does or doesn’t do that need to improve and he can do the same ( i will assume you’re not perfect)!

You’ve only been together 2 years, relationships do grow and do change as you develop. There is no reason yours can’t grow for the better of that’s what you want.

You forgot to say "Man here..." or "Handmaiden here..." (delete as appropriate) at the beginning of your post

witnessprotection73 · 24/07/2023 13:54

CovertImage · 24/07/2023 13:48

You forgot to say "Man here..." or "Handmaiden here..." (delete as appropriate) at the beginning of your post

Show quote history

Lol.. Handmaiden- yes because the OP
is being imprisoned, raped, beaten and worse. Grow up.

CovertImage · 24/07/2023 13:59

witnessprotection73 · 24/07/2023 13:54

Lol.. Handmaiden- yes because the OP
is being imprisoned, raped, beaten and worse. Grow up.

Show quote history

Haha!

Oh, that's what you think I meant? OK

Wheredoistart78 · 24/07/2023 17:06

Did you tell him to fuck off in front of other people?

New posts on this thread. Refresh page