Hi…
Just want someone to talk to!
I met a really sweet man in February through a mutual hobby, we’ve met for walks, coffee and some lovely meals out. He’s thoughtful, kind and generous.
His wife died at Xmas after a 2 year illness and he cared for her to the end,. He has two adult children whom he adores and sees as often as he can.
Ive fallen in love (I’m divorced for years with 3 grown up children) with him and I thought he felt the same. He says he loves my company and has invited me on holiday for 5 days later this year. He can’t bring himself to say he cares as he gets emotional. I asked him if he liked me and he said,’more than that’,
He’s arranged for a couple dates soon for places I’ve wanted to go..it’s been so great. He’s come to my home several times and stayed and I’ve been to his place for dinner. He gets nervous around me as he says he never expected to find someone so soon. He is very affectionate but cries sometimes.
I give him a lot of space as I know he’s still grieving, I don’t pressure him, I stay positive and just enjoy what we have.
He is going on a sort pilgrimage for several months to raise funds his wife’s illness which I knew about and I support him.
The only concern I have is that I’ve never met his children - he says that they are too fragile, I’ve never met his family, friends or acquaintances. He goes all family gatherings on his own. Weekends are often reserved for family and his children.
its very early days but I can’t help feeling that he’s not serious about me I’ve thought of asking him where our relationship is going. I don’t want to hurt him when he is so vulnerable.
Most self help groups advise me to ask how he feels so I have certainty, others say wait for a year and see how it goes.
He wear his wedding ring which he says he will wear for a year and a day.
We are both in our sixties.
I just wish I knew where I stand.