Hello, I'm looking for other parents who may have been in the same boat with advice on what the hell to do after you've experience betrayal by your partner.
For context it'll be 9 years this year we've been together. Last October I found heavy porn use, every day to every other day, from my partner for the entirety of our relationship. Now I don't have a problem with it as long as someone's honest, however my boyfriend has kept this from me and has talked down on me for looking at it myself. He's always said when ive asked if he does look it at that he doesn't need porn he's got me, why would he need to look at other women when I'm right here.
After i found that i tried to talk to him about it but it was awful. He doesn't understand what the problem is and has said because he's apologised that he wants it to be over and done and move on, but I'm stuck here.
The conversations keep going round and round and it go's nowhere.
He's shown me something in Instagram before and clicked onto his feed and it was just full of barely covered bikini girls when I asked him why he downplayed it too it wasn't him he didn't understand how the app works, it must just push these photos to him because he's a man.
Now ive found hes on tiktok, and its triggered me off because of the lies again.
i dont care what social media he has and im open with all of mine. He came up as suggested 2 weeks ago, The name hadnt synced with contacts yet so it just said it was from my contacts but was a username he often uses. I asked if it was him, immediate no he doesnt use that app because he hates it.
I've gone on tiktok today and it's now showing his name from my contacts.
Just why all the lies..
Has anyone found any support groups for this kind of thing?
Feel like I'm hitting a brick wall.