Help me see the error in my ways?

[Haveimessedup]

Apologies if this is in the wrong section. Only ever posted once stressed when I returned to work.

I have a good friend (who I considered I was close with)

I text them over the weekend, hey how was yesterday? Have fun?

They responded yeah okay thanks.

I read it (gave the read receipt) and the didn’t text back. Today I got a message saying why do you ask questions then not text back to my reply? I was a bit shocked and responded I read it then went to XYZ, sorry (which I did) now they’ve blanked me. Running joke is when they’re mad they do not include ‘xx’ on their messages which I didn’t get back.

I don’t know if I’ve done something wrong and should apologise? Should I apologise to see if I can end it. Although, I did originally. Honestly feel upset by this and don’t know if I’m completely in the wrong?

You’re not in the wrong. What were you supposed to reply to ‘yeah okay thanks’? And in any case you’re allowed to take time to reply.

Sometimes it can take me 3 business days to reply to messages 🙈 You're not in the wrong and a good friend wouldn't make you feel bad for not replying to a pretty insignificant message.

I wonder if they are ok? Need to chat to you about soemthing? Need the company?

Seems very odd to me. 'Yeah okay thanks' sounds like the sort of response you give when you don't want to talk about your weekend. If you'd replied to that asking (again) 'so what did you do?' that would come off as a bit pushy, wouldn't it? If they wanted to continue the chat, why didn't they follow up with either more info or (more polite) a question about your weekend?

I couldn't be doing with all this, I'm afraid. I wouldn't apologise and I wouldn't follow up. You've done nothing wrong.

Tribpot, that’s exactly how I took it. The conversation is done and I didn’t want to piss them off by asking anything further.

i even panicked writing this incase they saw it and linked it together. But it’s made me feel so on edge because I couldn’t figure out if I had messed up. They’re a really really close friend of mine, that’s why I have let it take mental load, normally I am very hmmf about things and just let it be.

midnight, you could be right something else could be going on or happened at the weekend.

you could be right something else could be going on or happened at the weekend

Possibly, but that’s on her to communicate it - you’re not a mind reader. If ‘yeah okay thanks’ was supposed to get you to bite then that’s playing a game. Like pp unless she’s ordinarily a very good friend I couldn’t be dealing with that.

She didn't give you anything to respond to!

I find it odder that she didn't ask you a question in return, 'how was your weekend? Hope all well' type thing. Surely that's just courtesy.

Your friend is being ridiculous, she didn't give you an opportunity to progress the conversation. I would tell her that too as she's sent you such a snarky text!

Is this friend male by any chance?

Your friend should have asked how you were too in that reply.

You opened a conversation, they gave a closed answer. You didn't respond. Lots of people find that rude. They would expect another text such as "I'm glad you're OK, shall we meet up next week?"

My teens think their Granny's really rude because she doesn't reply to their texts. Granny thinks the convo is finished. I can see it from both sides.

Their answer basically told you that they wanted the conversation to stop. What on earth were you meant to say in response?

Friend is female.

Thank you for the responses, it’s eased my stress levels about thinking I’ve done something wrong for assuming the conversation was closed. I genuinely thought I was insane for thinking that the conversation was over.

Definitely going to steal Lynettes response to any closed messages I get in future. The perfect response