Do online relationships work?

[mopeymouse]

I've met a really nice person online. They live quite a distance from me and I was wondering if these things ever work?

We've been chatting, phone, video etc for a few months but not yet met (due to me really, worried about lots of things).

Advice/experiences would be welcome.

~ MM

It's lovely that you have met someone interesting online.

If you are happy for the relationship to remain online, it's all good.

If you would like this to become a real life relationship, then the sooner you meet up and start to see what they are like in real life, the better.

Good luck.

Why are you so invested already? For all that you know, you may not fancy him in real life and what he has disclosed to you might be fabricated stories. You need better boundaries in place.

I wouldn't say I'm 'invested' which is why I have delayed meeting. Interested yes, invested, no.

No way of predicting if it will work for you, but you need to have at least 1 f2f meeting, a lunch a walk and a relaxed unforced conversation to see if the chemistry is there and if you feel a spark. If you don't meet you may find it goes off the boil, and the moment will pass.

I can't remember what my DH and I chatted about on our first F2F date after 5 weeks of emails and 1 phonecall, it went by in an easy and gentle way with no expectations on either side, except at the end of the date we'd made another date to meet again. That only happened because we met and it became real. At our next date at his house we sat at his computer and both deregged from the OLD site we met on. It felt right then and we've never looked back.

Tale a chance and meet, if you like your contact so far. You've got nothing to lose.

The can work..I've been in a few long distance relationships that have started from meeting online. Both people do need to put the effort in though, and trust each other.

I would agree however that if you want this to be a romantic relationship in person at some point, then meet sooner rather than later. Sometimes when you meet someone you bot realise the spark just isn't there in person. Other times, it's so much more than a spark.