Been married for ten years. Relationship is fine, but not great. We seem to have the same "discussions" over and over and nothing improves. Mostly these are around me feeling that he doesn't make an effort. He doesn't cook, he leaves stuff all over the house so it always looks messy, he forgets birthdays and anniversaries or doesn't bother doing anything for me on these dates even though he knows they are important to me. Plus, he's so focused on work all the time that he is on his phone during family activities, but then complains that our DS7 doesn't interact with him.
I feel that he could have ADHD and I've asked him if he would speak with the GP about it. I've explained to him that if this is the case, there are things he could do to change his behaviour which would benefit our relationship. It would also help me to be more understanding of his behaviour rather than feeling like he's just not trying. But he has refused to look into it. He says he's concerned about the (perceived) stigma of having a diagnosis.
This feels like the final straw as it feels like he's not prioritising our marriage.
What would you do?