Been together 10 years, have 2 kids. He turned into a diff person overnight. Came home one night and told me he needed to tell me how he’s been feeling, then proceeded to tell me a long list of things that he didn’t like about me. He said I’m emotionally unstable, I wouldn’t mentally be able to handle having another baby (I’ve been wanting a third baby but obviously not anymore), I don’t build him up, I drag him down, I don’t encourage him to become a better person and further his career, I disrespect the work he does n money he makes, I don’t listen to any advice he gives, when I get a cold I’m out of commission for a week, when he gets sick he gets up and goes to work anyway because that’s what adults do. He also said he wouldn’t still be with me if we didn’t have kids. I know there’s more I’m forgetting. I actually almost fainted that night because I was so blindsided. For 3 months didnt come home from work till late, started to do things he had never done since I’ve known him like take up smoking pot and going to play paintball with much younger coworkers every weekend, always having coworkers over to the house. I lost 10 lbs over those months because I was so stressed. I know I’m not an angel. I have a lot of leftover trauma from my very controlling/abusive ex that I was with for 10 years. I’m not the best at communicating and I can be hesitant to share any stress I’m under or when I need help because with my ex those things were always used against me. Around when he wasn’t coming home he also started having a “friendship” with a younger girl from work that he insists he never cheated on me with, even though I found out from our son that she had been over to our house while I was at work and my partner never told me. I don’t have any proof that he cheated on me but I think it’s pretty obvious he did. In the middle of those 3 months I would cry, beg him to talk it out, and he would give me the cold shoulder and say “I don’t know” to any question I would ask. He actually wouldn’t look at me in the eyes. For months. Eventually I fell out of love with him after being treated like this every day for months, especially while I was at home taking care of our two kids. It hurt a lot. I would tell him to think about what he was doing because if he keeps it up, I’m not going to love him anymore. He didn’t stop. Eventually, he did stop. He apologized, said he didn’t mean to hurt me, said he would never do it again. The words meant nothing to me. I told him I didn’t want to be with him anymore and that I’d be figuring out how to move out and we would have to figure out the childcare situation. He responded incredulously, he said “I have treated you like a queen for 10 years and I mess up once, and you want to throw it all away” “you were waiting for me to mess up so you could say you didn’t want to be with me anymore” “you must have never loved me” and things along those lines. It makes me feel like maybe I’m in the wrong by not forgiving him. I’m sure there was a reason he was unhappy enough to come home and dump on me his feelings that night, and I am not perfect and would have tried to work through the things he was unhappy about. But his actions after that night made me not want to try. If he told his version of the story I’m sure there would be things you would agree with him on like my communication isn’t the best, and I can be guarded. I’m sure there’s more. This is all the shortest summary I could write. But am I in the wrong by not wanting to be with him anymore?