To find men moodier than women?

[JamSandle]

People regularly seem to say that women are moody mainly due to our hormones.

While I definitely think women can be moody I'm always surprised when people say men are easier than women.

I find many men SO moody. Whether it's my dad, siblings, employees, managers, different partners.

And I'm not sure where the women are worse thing comes from?

I feel like a lot of women are quite dynamic and happy go lucky and many men have tempers and sulk.

Both genders can be moody. So why are women considered the moody ones?

I'm like the above poster saying she's like petrol. I flare up but once I've said my piece it's done and dusted.
Him indoors won't bring up any issues, just stonewalls me.
He had an issue lately with a client not paying him. He got in a mood because he couldn't afford to go to the pub that night.
Not for any special occasion, just a routine night at the pub that he has several nights of the week anyway.
He ignored me every time I spoke to him, then just went to bed without saying a word.
If I've got a problem thats upsetting me, I'm always saying I'm sorry that I'm maybe being a bit moody, and saying it's not his fault.
But apparently part of being a man means never having to say your sorry.

Workplace wise I'd say that proper bullies of women are often women (it's only about one in maybe six women, but they ruin it for all of us). But, men in general are a problem. They often act up and get away with it. If you don't let them away with it, they sulk and make out you are the issue.

I agree with the above poster that mean women are mean. Where as guys, you just don't know wtf they're going to do next (but guarantee they'll act like the injured party if you call them up on it or don't respond as they want). Give me raging bitch Sandra from the office over 'spoke to you twice and now randomly texts you a love poem' Dominic from accounts any day.

No I would choose the guys pinkbonbon.
They are less spiteful and any fall out is over with quicker.

I think it is generally acknowledged to be honest, at least with age. The Victor Meldrew typecast.

Not my experience at all. In terms of working environment, I wouldn't group men or women as being better or worse to manage. You get the odd difficult person, but they could be equally male or female. The best working environment is when there is a good mix.

In life in general, I think some of the stereotypes thrown at women apply just as much (or more sometimes) to men.... I find men talk just as much or more, but often about (what seems like) less. My DH is much more likely than me to get talking to someone while we're in the front garden / on a day out / at a garage, and they'll chat for 30 minutes about (what seems to me) next to nothing.

IME women are more likely to talk about deeper issues / feelings / serious stuff, which has been interpreted as women 'talking to much'. I couldn't talk about our lawnmower (lovely as it is) for 5 minutes, but my DH could discuss it with our neighbour (and has) for 45 minutes plus.

Men are just as gossipy as women as well, perhaps even moreso. And I've met more men who 'stir' than women, by a large margin.

And yes - whilst women have the inevitable impact of constantly fluctuatin hormones to contend with, and that can change our moods, I think men can be just as moody, and in my experience men are much more likely to sulk or get angry than women.

It's interesting that we call women 'emotional' yet anger is an emotional response and one we see much more in men. Women show their softer emotions more. Men show their aggressive emotions more. They are both emotional.

I tend to find women less predictable. A grumpy man tends to always be grumpy thus easy to avoid, a fut with happy outlook also tends to consistent bar life altering events. I find this helps me gauge the person and how to interact with them.

Women I think are more up and down and you have to take them as you find them on the day, I find this unpredictable and a bit harder to understand especially in environments like work where you might not be privy to how their day is going or personal life.

A guy *

I have a husband who’s never been in ‘a mood’ in the entire time I’ve known him. Ditto my 2 young adult sons. My dad and father in law were both level headed and calm types. In fact, I’ve never known a man in my life who has had a temper.

Just my experience. But then I wouldn’t tolerate a hot headed man or someone that sulked more than once.

Yep I agree. Normally because they are less in touch with their emotions and less emotionally aware. So they act grumpy ad they just know they emotionally feel bad.

Same reason women are classed as hysterical or hormonal when they're upset, and men are regarded as 'angry': it's just stereotyping.

We can all end it if we stop saying men are this and women are that. Some people are moody, some aren't so much. That's the truth of it.

I 100% agree!

someone's emotions being constantly exaggerated does not make them "not emotional"

I have found this to be true.

They're not necessarily hot headed. It's more like a low-level irritability. Shutting down, being silent, hugging, signing, pouting, snapping.

When did I say that lol

Read it again.

"This makes them grumpy and with no spark for life beyond bin day.🤣"

Sorry, just got to stop for this. Classic!

I’ve not noticed a difference in grumpiness or anger in men and women, just differences in how it’s perceived. Men it’s always for a “good reason”, and something that other people are supposed to be fixing. Women it’s “hormonal”, “irrational” “unpredictable” “difficult” etc.

sorry, ive read that as a counter argument to the idea that women are less emotional - while i think someone being occasionally in a mood is being less emotional than always being grumpy

If women express emotion, they are the problem. If men express emotion, someone else is the problem.

@littleripper Yep, in my nearly 40 years experience of men this is all so true.

I left my second husband because I couldn't stand the constant negativity, moods or grumpiness any longer. I'm having the last laugh now as he's with a woman younger than him (she's early 40s, he's mid 50s) and she has a terrible time with PMT....I never did, and I was his first girlfriend, so it's come as a real shock to him. She freely admits she far outdoes him when it comes to being moody.

I think it's hilarious. If I believed in Karma I would say she is a bitch.

Men turn into Victor Meldrew, it's their version of the menopause. They sulk, they control the mood of the room, they expect to be jollied along. The answer is to not pander to them or divorce them if it's your husband. We all get moods but wallowing in it, or making it your default position, needs sorting out.

Totally disagree. Worked in both too and men to each other are far more competitive and aloof. Jokey in a superficial way yes, but less attempt at real understanding of each other. Women to each other (IME) are more supportive, genuinely open up about stuff and work together constructively and calmly. I guess they both revert to stereotypes- men become macho and women mother each other. Which environment you prefer maybe depends on individual preferences. I'm quite open so prefer the more open female atmos.

You are so lucky!!!

Whilst my H can be moody and somewhat up and down, I also have a lovely female friend who can be like this too- difference is she acknowledges it and apologises saying she's having a period of poor mental health or has bad PMT or something- I find men think it's ok to be like this as a norm and then not apologise.

Sweeping generalisations aren't helpful. Some men do this, other men do other things. Some women turn into a version of Victor Meldrew, some women do other things.