ED and cheating

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I recently went away for a few days. When I came back I noticed an old perfume bottle had moved position slightly in the bathroom cabinet. I asked DH if he had moved my perfume. He seemed confused and said no. When I explained how a bottle had moved in the cabinet he then said that he had noticed the bottle while I was away and got it out to look at what it was as he'd never seen it before. Then he put it back in its place, so that's why he said no when I asked if he had moved it.
The bottle has been in that position in the cabinet for a year.
Also, since I've come back, he had ED twice, but that seems to have resolved itself.
These two things alone are making me suspicious, not sure I should be. He has always been resolute in saying he'd never have an affair.

trust your gut.. somethings telling you something isn’t right. Can you check his phone? Some will say it’s an invasion of privacy but I think if you’re close enough to share your bed and bodily fluids then you should be fine looking at their phone. So I’d look.

I can't look at his phone in secret as it's always with him apart from when he goes to the bathroom.
Plus i don't think it's fair to snoop - and where would to start looking anyway?
My gut hasn't really been telling me anything because up to the ED happening I just accepted his explanation about the bottle. Now it seems kinda odd.

I'm not surenif I am being really stupid but, how do these two things amount to suspicion of an affair?

You must be on alert for something as these two things wouldn't add up to cheating in my head. I'd be hard pushed to notice that something like that had moved for starters, unless I was looking for clues.

Perhaps ask him how I he is feeling , is there anything lacking or needed in the relationship?
generally there would be some other behavioural differences e.g on his phone more. More mood swings than normal , less affectionate or more affectionate than normal
out with friends alot more often than normal ?

It is your gut telling you something feels off, otherwise you wouldn’t be questioning it

How does a perfume bottle being moved slightly equals cheating?

Had any cleaning supplies shifted slightly in your absence? Now THAT would be very suspicious indeed, in this house anyway.

What is ED? Eating disorder?

Why does the moved perfume bottle make you suspicious he's cheating? What's the link?

There must be something more that you're noticing to be thinking affair otherwise that's a shocking lack of trust you have in your husband

ED = erectile dysfunction

@OP: look up Shakira’s story about finding out her partner had been cheating as the OW had eaten some jam in her house

I think the ED could be a sign of his ambivalence about being with you

In your shoes I would not hesitate to investigate further, including looking at his phone

Maybe he missed you and sniffed the perfume
maybe is buying you perfume for birthday/ Christmas and wants to get it right.

ED - maybe he’s anxious that you cheated while away, or he took advantage of the time alone and wanked himself into oblivion.

Not sure why either of these thing would make you jump to affair.

Is there something else making you not trust him?