Dating a man that’s more attractive than me

[Dreamscape1]

Hello!

I’ve started seeing this really nice man recently. We seem to really get on and it looks hopeful. However, I can’t get past this feeling that he’s significantly more attractive than me though! Think dark, Italian, tallish, very handsome, the kind of man that women look at. I’m 24 and he’s 36, so at least I have youth on my side 🤣 I’ve polled the opinion of people around me, and they say we’re well-matched, but I’m really struggling with the feeling that I’ll be the more plain one in the relationship. Anyone else been in this very unfortunate situation? 🤣

It should be “a man who’s more attractive to me” - sorry! My brain’s not working today!

My partner is more attractive than me. I guess I let him do more ‘chasing’ early on than I usually would and I have complete trust in him, so I feel comfortable that my nice enough looks and amazing personality are plenty for him!

I feel my DP is way more attractive than me. Nice face, good body (international sports coach!)......me fat, not good looking. I feel incredibly insecure about it

I hate to say it OP, but be careful about putting this guy on a pedestal. You are only young and he has a lot more life experience than you, he may be great but he may also be liking the ego boost of you thinking he is some adonis.

This is really about how you feel about yourself, not really to do with him. I mean, he is obviously attracted to you or wouldn't have asked you out, people are attracted to lots of different things, he must think you are great.

Just don't wear yourself down by feeling indebted to him for going out with you.

It doesn't matter how attractive he is, it's how attractive he finds you that matters to your security in the relationship.
I've known really good looking people with plain partners, but they're happy with them and not interested in anyone else.
Conversely I know a man who really isn't much to look at at. He has quite attractive GFs (much better looking than him!), but is constantly looking over their shoulders for better looking women and would cheat at the drop of a hat. The less easy on the eye ones can actually be more of a liability sometimes, as they've often got ego issues and something to prove that the good looking ones don't.
Anyway, if you're together in ten years the scales will have tipped in your favour. And that's where they'll stay.