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Allycat · 2023-05-06T10:06:40+00:00

To the lady on the London tube train that passed me a message to say I'm worth more, I would like to say a massive thank you for saving me from continuing an abusive relationship. The message is in a frame and is keeping me strong. I hope you see this x

InSpainTheRain · 06/05/2023 16:18

Well done OP! You are definitely worth more!!

Asformending · 06/05/2023 16:53

Amazing story. Well done OP and well done the lady on the tube for having the courage to speak up. Respect to both of you ❤️

piedbeauty · 06/05/2023 18:39

Allycat · 06/05/2023 14:08

Piedbeauty I am already addressing that, as well as a few other things. I've been a bit down trodden and stopped taking so much care of myself as he was affecting my self esteem. Dyed my hair already today and will do my nails and get dressed up for my afternoon out, not for anyone else but me. I need to learn to enjoy my own company, love myself and reset my boundaries. New beginnings 😁

That all sounds great. You are worth it.

Wishing you the very best! 💐

lilaco · 06/05/2023 19:17

This is such a powerful story, and I admit choked me up a bit, as 12 years ago something similar happened to me. I was young, trapped in an abusive relationship at a very vulnerable time of my life (history of anorexia, depression, and my lovely dad was terminally ill). My "partner" and I had been at a comedy show in London and were getting the tube home, I had apparently embarrassed him by confirming my own drink choice with the barman at the theatre then smiling at someone on the escalator. He was whispering in my ear (whilst smiling and stroking my arm) exactly what he thought of me and what he would do to me when we got home. On a packed platform I was trying to hold in tears, bite my lip, look down and not anger him further. When I didn't react he stormed off down the platform to wait elsewhere. A lovely lady came over, touched my arm ever so gently and said "I'm just over there, I won't get the next train on purpose if you want to miss it and stay here, I will help you"

Sadly I didn't, I was scared, got on the train and he almost killed me. A few months later I got out, but I often think of that kind woman and what I regrets I might not have had, had I missed the train.

A true "Sliding Doors" moment, and one I think about often.

I'm so glad you took the other door. Xxxx

Whylurkwhenicanjoinin · 06/05/2023 19:25

OMG l@lilaco thank god you survived, i know what its like to be too scared to make the jump, you met an angel there

ShandaLear · 06/05/2023 20:51

A woman lifting up another woman. That’s how it should be done 🎉

catlady4lyfe · 07/05/2023 02:19

Absolutely amazing - yes shout this woman out !!

ladydimitrescu · 07/05/2023 02:55

This gave me chills, what an amazing story. well done for being so strong op, and to the woman who wrote the note, people like you are the reason I still have faith in humanity.

BlastedPimples · 07/05/2023 08:54

Op, that is truly wonderful.

Many people must watch dodgy interactions in public and not know what to do.

@lilaco that is a terrifying story. I really hope you're in a far far better place now.

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Allycat · 07/05/2023 09:31

lilaco · 06/05/2023 19:17

This is such a powerful story, and I admit choked me up a bit, as 12 years ago something similar happened to me. I was young, trapped in an abusive relationship at a very vulnerable time of my life (history of anorexia, depression, and my lovely dad was terminally ill). My "partner" and I had been at a comedy show in London and were getting the tube home, I had apparently embarrassed him by confirming my own drink choice with the barman at the theatre then smiling at someone on the escalator. He was whispering in my ear (whilst smiling and stroking my arm) exactly what he thought of me and what he would do to me when we got home. On a packed platform I was trying to hold in tears, bite my lip, look down and not anger him further. When I didn't react he stormed off down the platform to wait elsewhere. A lovely lady came over, touched my arm ever so gently and said "I'm just over there, I won't get the next train on purpose if you want to miss it and stay here, I will help you"

Sadly I didn't, I was scared, got on the train and he almost killed me. A few months later I got out, but I often think of that kind woman and what I regrets I might not have had, had I missed the train.

A true "Sliding Doors" moment, and one I think about often.

I'm so glad you took the other door. Xxxx

Honestly, we could be talking about the same person. He was doing exactly the same. My friend has only met him once at a party and said he separated me from the group and then goaded me quietly. She called him a silent assassin. He said I kept looking at other men as well, so I began to walk looking down to avoid another row. Two times in the last year pub landlords have pulled me aside and asked me if I want them to call the police. At the time I didnt think he was being that bad, but he obviously was. I'd just got conditioned to being treated that badly. So sorry to hear he nearly killed you. That sounds terrifying. Mine was heading that way too. He kicked me a few times, once in the middle of a hotel foyer in front of everyone. I remember the horrified looks on their faces. I went to the room and locked him out and videoed the abuse. I couldn't wait to go home. Why I ever gave him another chance I'll never know. I've done the online freedom programme in the past, I think I'll do it again. The good thing is when he's done, he's done. I won't hear from him ever again.

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lilaco · 08/05/2023 22:45

BlastedPimples · 07/05/2023 08:54

Op, that is truly wonderful.

Many people must watch dodgy interactions in public and not know what to do.

@lilaco that is a terrifying story. I really hope you're in a far far better place now.

Thank you so much. I am indeed in a far better place now, married to a wonderful man, very lucky. I often think though, of the extra weeks, perhaps months, I could have spent with my dad instead of trapped in the gilded cage my ex built for me. It will haunt me forever.

Please, ladies, if you are ever trapped in an abusive relationship, and it seems hopeless, it's not. You can get out. The sooner the better. Honestly, that lovely woman could have bought me precious months of my life back. Not a day goes by I don't regret staying on that platform and letting her help me.