I wonder what would other Mumsnetters do? For past 4 years I have been in a v strange relationship. I got divorced from ex and started new relationship with much older man (early 60s) me mid 40s. Beginning was great. He moved in with me ( I am renting) all seemed going well. He wanted to get married, me freshly divorced not so much. He wanted me to move to his house but I did not like it there. All is dated and too much of previous life there. He did not want to refurbish. He said if I don't like it I can refurbish it since I got my money, I said ok I will invest in his house through refurb in exchange for shares in it (solicitor's suggestions) - he said no to that idea. I received my divorce settlement and he thought I will invest in a separate property with him. I had no plans to buy a house with him, I wanted something modest for my future or just wait and see how life pans out. He got all angry about it. I also thought since he has adult kids and we have none together maybe best each of us has their own place.
Once he realised I am not interested in buying a house with him everything has changed. ( I was willing to refurb his house ) He withdrew sex, has really short fuse, we do not go on dates, we do not do anything together and he constantly moans about money, how everyone seems to have xyz and he doesn't. We live in a rental which he hates and says it affects his mental health. He doesn't want to rent anymore and wants to force me to move with him to his martial home. He sold his car and drives mine but constantly complains about not having a car of his own. He is on high salary but moans how hard done by life he is. We do not go on holidays together. He goes with his mates, I go with my mother. I just feel like he is punishing me all the time for not investing money with him. All his money stories are very confusing. I am tired. I am getting to the point where I want to leave. I feel this has no future. Perhaps he just saw me as a money support and free carer? Perhaps I was supposed to just fit into his old house like a wife swap?
What would you do?
I tried talking - he doesn't want to talk.
I suggested therapy - doesn't need therapy.