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[Milady44]

I work 33 hours a week and do all all the housework and 95%of childcare for my 2 children.
These last few months I’ve been getting really shitty comments from my husband and eldest son about my working hours. They’re not enough, I’m not working enough etc. It’s really annoying me. How do I put an end to these comments once and for all ?

You make a household chore chart for everyone old enough to perform chores, including caring for dependent children, make sure all working age adults are contributing to the household bills proportionately and tell them when the schedule has been stuck to religiously for, say, 3 months, you'll take on full-time hours.

We’ve done the chore list and it never works even after sitting down and everyone chooses what chores they want to do !!!
I end up doing nearly everything

So are you desperate for tye money? Getting into debt? Why exactly do they think you're not working enough hours?

stop washing their clothes, cooking their food etc.

Why are you tolerating such rudeness from your son?

It sounds like your son is learning the lazy/misogynistic behaviour from his dad, so rude of both of them. They have no respect for you and your time, they think as the mum you should be doing everything for them, time to stop doing it all.

And if your husband doesn't step up to be an equal partner (which I'm assuming he won't) I'd leave him.

This! If you've tried the chore chart and it doesn't work, just stop doing stuff for them (assuming dc are old enough to be responsible for their own).

Tell them that once you stop doing everything else you'll have time to do more hours (and Leo a lot still have free time for yourself!)